First time in my life reached day 23

Great to read your story, friend.

I have been down a very similar path to you, searching for satisfaction from something so meaningless, and have decided that this is also my time to quit for good. I have had one successful streak before, which lead to all of the positive changes you speak of. Eye contact, confidence in conversation, general clear thinking and mindfulness. I made it to 45 days and felt amazing. As a result I found myself in a great relationship with a beautiful girl, while on an overseas vacation. Sadly, because of long distance issues, it was too difficult to stay together and things fell apart. And as a result, the fap demons returned, I felt overwhelmingly lost and lonely and I relapsed, leading to binging again.

At the start of this year, I was at a point again where I knew I had to make a change and fix this issue for good. I am now 15 days in, with a positive outlook on life, great diet habits, working out, socialising and the future is looking bright!

I'm about 11 days behind you, but reading posts like yours helps me to feel like we have something in common and it motivates me. If there is one piece of advice I can give, it is this: treat yourself occasionally, with travel or small things that make you feel good. When you have things to look forward to - like amazing places to visit, or items that might bring you a little joy, it helps to keep your spirits high and your motivation strong. It make not work for everybody, but it has been very beneficial for me.

Keep updating, I'm interested to hear how your progress is going.

And good luck to you man. I'll always be just 11 days behind you!

 

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Thank you for the post brother, I'm on the same day as you.

Day 23:

I decided to go on NoFap for 90 days. No porn and no masturbation. I do plan to have sex - but only once every three to four weeks. Hey... even Warren Buffet indulges in an egg McMuffin every morning... so cut a guy some slack. I mean, props to the guys that can go monk mode... but the way I see it, it's all about sustainability. In life, it's important to work and save for the 'big rewards' like a nice house, a fast car, or an awesome holiday. But you also need to litter the trail with 'small rewards', like a cheat day, dancing in a club, letting loose once in a while, and yes, that's right - SEX.

The problem I realized with fapping and porn (for me) is two folds.

1. Before NoFap, I didn't reward myself, big or small. I just INDULGED. I let myself go three times a week. FOR NO REASON. Why put in the work? Why put in the effort? Why improve? You know you're gonna get a huge endorphin hit anyway - and it's only a mouse click away.

2. I realize now that it wasn't that I didn't have energy in life. I didn't have FOCUS. By being unable to say NO to things, I couldn't channel my YES into what was important.

Focus isn't about saying yes to what you want and what's important. Look. We all know what we want. We all know what is important. We all want to look great. We all know a salad is healthier than a steak. We all know the gym is better for your body than the TV. What's the difference? Some people say NO. They say NO a lot. NO to the TV. NO to the steak. NO NO NO NO NO.

And guess what? Hot women love the word NO. Why? It's a DRUG. Imagine life as a hot woman. Men everywhere from New York to China to Egypt are bending over backward to please you. They will do ANYTHING to get in your pants. ANYTHING. If you were a solid 8 and you told a guy to lick the bottom your shoe and you'd give him a blowjob - he'd probably do it. Most guys anyway.

What happens when a guy says no? She loses it. She can't compute it. If he says no to me, it means he has options, it means he is willing to walk away, it means he is not a SLAVE to his desires.

He is a MASTER to his desires.

And while a man that is a master to others has strength, a man that is a master to himself has true power.

Be well my brothers. Stay on the journey and keep at it.

 

Nice, story! I'm currently at day 19, and don't feel fatigued or irritated most of the time like back then. I had some streaks of 34, 22, and 15, but I noticed that I go back to my old self every time I binged. I'm far from getting cured, but at least I'm seeing progress.

 

Keep on the journey brother. Honestly. It never gets easier. You just get stronger. Better at managing the urges. Better at getting back up after a relapse. Better at managing your triggers.

Keep going man! We are all in this together.