I don't know what some of you guys are trying to achieve with this thread. @Swissgirl is not going around trying seduce guys on this forum. She has PMed me and has been very respectful of my reboot. Maybe if she tried anything on PM's it's because you wanted her to do it.
Oh cause as her old screenname she was pretty much using some pretty triggering words in pm and yet it never triggered me, it was wrong. She only stopped talking to me in pm because of who I am. It was not what she was after she realized.
I think that's sad, for me it's more important that a woman is kind and graceful than her political views. There was a period when when I was totally against getting into a relationship with a conservative but now I've come to the conclusion that it's not a big deal. Liberal and conservatives have the potential to be awesome SO, it's not their political views that will cause the relationship successful, it's their character. If you want someone you will never disagree with you should probably marry yourself. At the end of the day there will be some disagreement if you marry a human being and you need to handle someone different opinion well for if you can't it will probably end in divorce. And also what if this conservative woman you marry becomes liberal overtime. What will you do then? People change. Ten years ago I was very conservative but now look at me.
I am unsure if this is the correct place for you to be gathering "data" for this personal research. But you are young, and if anything I appreciate a youth-driven self evaluation. For all my years of having done that though. I must give you this simple advice : Be yourself. Don't dress provocatively to attract others' gazes. Dress the way you feel most comfortable. "THEY" don't matter. You should matter, how you view yourself should matter. And for the record, if a girl/woman/boy/guy dress sexily, that shouldn't be seen as "cheap", yes we all have social values and status quos to maintain, but none of us have a right to judge another by the way they dress. (No matter how prevalent such judgements are in society) From your own responses I feel as though you aren't completely comfortable with the way your dressing is perceived. If truly, the only reason you dress the way you do, is to seek attention, then my honest advice to you would be to re-evaluate how you wish to seek a thrill. I have gone down a lot of dark perversions, much much darker than simply dressing inappropriately because of my furthering addiction. Although in my case, all of that shame has at least been out of the public light, but still it has taken an extreme toll on my self perception and sense of self worth. I have a feeling that behind the guise of research you yourself are probably posed with these same or at least similar internal conflicts. If that is the case, then realise you are worth way more than a sexy body, or an eyeful for some thirsty guy or girl. I guess what I am trying to say in a longwinded way is : If the way you dress has become an active decider of how you live your life, or if it has a strong bearing on what you can or cannot enjoy or experience in your daytoday activities, then it sounds like you probably have a problem. If that isn't the case, and you merely are simply just researching on how this certain demographic would react to someone like you, then I think you can sum up the reactions pretty well at this point too. Anyway, cheers, happy holidays to you. You CAN hit me up via pm, if you so wish, just do be considerate that I am on shaky footing right now as to my own challenge aswell. So just give a forewarning before sending/sharing/writing anything too risque.
Thank you for s tuank you for such a long note. That is so nice. And sich an Open note too. I better don’t hit you up. I don’t want to trigger.
She's gathering info about how men react to her dressing the way she does. In a forum full of porn addicted men
To everyone, all my fellow fapstronauts yes this is a bit unorthodox. But nofap isn't just about Porn Addiction, or at least not just about literal porn addiction. This place is a haven for anyone with sexual dysfunction that isn't readily recognised in modern psychology. Let's try to be abit supportive, or at least not so quick to pull the trigger in calling her a troll. All this thread needs is some trigger warnings in the title and the first post. A lot of people here tend to write explicitly. Yes, those of us who have been here long enough know the forum etiquettes for this support group and we mark triggering material as such, but the girl is just a newbie. She's obviously looking here for both advice and opinions. She may or may not have a legit problem that she could tackle through nofap, but all of us just shouting "trollolololol" really isn't in any one's best interest. And for the record @Swissgirl has been nothing but polite and respectful towards the members here in all regards. In any case @Swissgirl, I feel that your thread would be better suited under a different sub-forum. Maybe pm a mod to have it moved? This is the link to the "New to Nofap" section : https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?forums/new-to-nofap.6/
