Do you ever feel like there is no way out?

The only way to recover is to abstain. Refrain from sexual fantasizing and stop wanking, you deleted all of your progress right there *SORRY*. But it's like with drug addicts and alcoholics. If you smoke a pack a day for several years, and then you take a break for maybe 2 months and then you binge smoke, all positive changes are undone and you're basically back to square one.

 

No I disagree. I think that break the stopping has changed things and shown you a difference. He's not back at square one thats destructive thinking. Thats like saying well you may as well have pmo'd the whole time you abstained. Congratz. You can recover from this and you will great job on 43 days.

Clumsy why not we see some scientific studies and links to this alright then. And just abstaining is worthless clumsy. Its a reboot not an abstain if all you do is abstain you'll still be the same person who watched porn. No i'm afraid you will need to change your views your mindsets your habits. But most importantly to fuel the life you want not to constantly fight pmo its worthless putting all your energy into fighting the old you should just build onto the new. Good luck fighting wet dreams its kinda pointless.

 

Don't talk about things you've no clue about. Wet dreams aren't beneficial, so why should I have them? Can't you see how many people on this site that asked for help? And reported feeling tired, setback? Do you ignore these people? You are really rude sir, really arrogant.

And yes, sure some of physical damage is repaired. But no, his fetisches will not disappear if he goes one month -> binge -> goes one month. That would be lying, and if he thinks he can do that, and still recover, that would be cruel to let him go such a road.

It's the same with all kinds of addiction, if you were well-read in understanding addictions you would know what I say is true. He keeps feeding his sexual fetisches and as long as he does that, they will still be there.

I didn't change one f*cking bit of my life since I quit PMO the first two months, yet I was like a new man. It comes automatically when you reboot, but it can take 2-3 years, as I have said, as other experienced rebooters has reported, as people throughout history has claimed. It's no easy task to undo years of physical violations, and masturbation is more destructive than you might think.

 

And I say the truth because it's of uttermost importance that he realizes the seriousness of this matter, I'm not gonna lie him up to his face and tell him that he made progress when he certainly did not. Just restart, all over again. You will keep doing that as long as you don't break the vicious cycle and abstain for several months, and in some cases, years are needed. I could link you proofs for that.

 

And you'll all keep suffering from shitty confidence, poor performance and diseased libido if you let yourself have more than 1 WD a month.

 

That's good. But I was talking about the fetisch. And it will not go away if you keep binge every month, sorry.

 

I feel like there's no way out every single day. I feel like I feel like my sex life ended even before it began. Its a terrible and hopefully a temporary phase of my life.

 

Can't say I've ever been near she-male porn to be honest, but once wanked off to gay porn, then screwed my head back on and screamed "NOOOOOOOOO!" to myself. Tastes are strange things. Porn is like a candy shop in a way, tempting you to try this and that, but in the end all of it isn't that good for you.
As for slipping, which I can relate to right now after messing up after 31 days, you've got to battle on, get a few days under your belt and get your confidence back.

 

Well I've seen a lot of transwoman stuff but I was mostly addicted to gay porn. Something about males' bodies leave me speechless, dazed and confused. You guys are so... different. Anyway, back to your question, I quit partly because I've felt that I was going a tiny bit too far. Like, watching animal porn. Just the animals, without humans. Human sex was doing nothing on me anymore. Also I was starting to develop fetish leading to self-destruction. SO to answer you, yes I'm recovered from transwoman porn. It is possible, you can do it, and you will.

 

You still shouldn't view failures as complete losses though. Often with failure there's something we can learn from it, right?
I agree with what you've said, as letting the poison back in fuels the problem again, but we can't not forget that even though we may have relapsed we've still spent an extended period of time free of the problem. That in itself is something we can be pleased about.
Why have have you reset your counter Clumsy? Wet dream?

 

That link to the post in your sig is AWESOME man! That guy really speaks truth. Thank you!

 

43 days is great for a first streak.

Don't worry about it...you can either give up...or keep trying. That's it.

I relapsed after 47 days, 40 days, 20 days. I learned new things about myself after each relapse. I now know what are my weakpoints, what I have to avoid etc etc...

I'm now on day 67, doing great...everything is fine...no urges for porn...porn utterly disgusts me now. I'm spending time with real girls...sticking to my routines...working out 6/7, meditating everyday, cold showers everyday, eating healthy and staying positive. That's the most important thing. You should be grateful you found out about nofap. Just keep trying until you make it and learn from your mistakes.

And don't make whiny posts anymore..there's nothing more useless than that.
And don't tell yourself you "can't stop". Tell yourself every fucking day "I will do this" even if you don't believe it. Force it into your head everyday when you wake up. Write it down on a piece of paper 100 times a day if that's what it takes. But don't ever tell yourself "you can't" That's the most useless and destructive self talk ever. Read books and watch videos about how to condition your mind to think positive and stop negative thought patterns, it will change your world.

Check out Brendon burchard videos.

Good luck, actually no...it's not about luck..it's about making a decision.

 

I have to agree with Finalfight here, and I don't understand the anger against him.

When you fail, to view all your progress as gone is completely negative thinking and will ultimately undermine your efforts. It can fall into the ,"I will never succeed anyway so I shall just give up." mindset.

Recovery from a bad habit is not a linear path. And sometimes you have to reevaluate what you are doing.

 

A drinker will never recover if he keeps binge drinking, even if it's once in a month, trust me. That's how addiction works.

I smoked a cigarette and listened to music. But I had a wet dream this weekend unfortunately. I'm deeply depressed.