Hey guys it's been 2 months of nofap and the one thing i noticed about my behavior is that my anger is increasing rapidly as days passing. I have been always angry most of the time in my past history ( before nofap). I can't deal with sh*t people. But my anger most of the time remained inside ( before nofap journey). But after nofap journey it became hell difficult to keep myself calm in that kind of situations. Before nofap When i was pissed off, most of time i never revealed it to anyone. After nofap i can't control my anger. In starting(of this journey) i used many blunt words to people who made me angry (Kind of verbal fight). But i found it terrible when on 21st december i was so pissed off that i went a kind of physical with one of the guy. I suddenly became so irritated that i went straight to punch that guy in face but i somehow managed to stop myself, then i snatched his portable charger from his hand and bamm on the wall. You know what i mean. Now i am feeling like how can i do this. I never was like this. Feeling guilty although my other friend told me that i did good. But i never thought that my anger will become issue like this. Need advice. Comments will be appreciated. Thank you.
I'm same way man sometimes I wanna smash people out in traffic some days. Just the testosterone in us man... juice wasn't a good thing for me. Runs in my family tree and I think its when were not happy in our situation in life. I mean shit, if we had millions a dollars, it would be pretty hard to have road rage in your jet. I try to chanel it to motovation. Anger never a good thing over time man..kills our souls and prevents creativity. I think for me its been past rejection, money issues, trusting the wrong people and holding onto nagitive thoughts. Its past shit we don't let go or haven't forgiven someone from the past i think mostly man. Never good to do things out of anger. I've fucked up more relationships with women... saying shit when I'm pissed, after the angry comes the depression, and self destruction. We need it for survival, in case we need to protect ourselves or someone. That's about it...its usless other wise and just distorts our souls and relationship with God. Same with fapping...fml...i just fucked up 3 days ago...i was doing so good too. Back to the drawing board. Try praying bro and look up Wim Hof on YouTube...try his breathing technique...works man! I've been checking out tony Robbins videos lots too. The man is genius on human emotions. Always feel on point after a listen to him. Stay focused brother...good luck
My last streak I was getting into a pretty angry place, and I was able to go for months - I thought I was using that energy for motivation but I see now it's off balance. The thing is, emotions like anger, fear and lust comes from the primitive reptilian brain, and any one of them can be thrown off balance. Using one primitive emotion as motivation to overcome another is working on that same instinctual level, it doesn't make sense in the long run. We've probably all read that quote attributed to Einstein that you can't solve a problem on the same level of thinking that it's created on, and that's exactly what's going on if we try to use anger to work against lust. If you're going to use it for motivation, do it for the short spurt like getting you away from one tempting situation - but in the long run there has to be a smarter solution that goes deeper than that.
Also I was thinking a nice image that includes intelligence so not just "strength" like a "beast" to beat an enemy is the Engineers from Prometheus. Those guys are humanoid, strong and not afraid to go hand-to-hand with the aliens but obviously very intelligent too. (btw I haven't seen Alien Covenant yet, no spoilers please!)
