It has been a crazy few days for me – Sunday – SO starts a conversation (not for the first time) about the deterioration of our sex life (or more honestly, my reduced virility which I had been attributing to turning 50 a few weeks previously). Monday – started seriously searching on internet for advice and very quickly, made the link between declining bedroom activity and increased porn use. Tuesday – found this site and started reading the great and supportive contributions. Resolved to go without P and M for a while and then tell my wife after our anniversary and Christmas… perhaps as a sort of New Year resolution. Late on Tuesday evening, SO found an open tab on my browser of some porn. So, rather than lie, minimise my activity and try and explain it away, I confessed. Wednesday – a tense day – several messages of grovelling apology to my wife, very intense conversations when we got home in the evening but a resolution from me to change my ways (with the help of you good people on this website) and to work very hard to rebuild the trust of the most important person in my life – my wife, and repair the most valuable thing I have – my relationship with my wife. Thursday – today… first day of the rest of my life About me – · male · 50 · Using internet porn since the dawn of broadband – DVDs from the sex shop before that, magazines found in a hedge before that! · Porn destroying my marriage. · Going No PM, one day at a time.
whoa man! that's quite a history! i have been using porn almost all of my life. we're in this together! and definitely good thing that it came out into the open. much love and best of everything to you!
Welcome sir Jammer, Glad to see you here. Confessing to the wife is amazing brave. There are lot of other people in relationship here to connect with. Check the special forum as well. https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?forums/rebooting-in-a-relationship.14/ Good luck sir.
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Thank you. I wanted to be in control of the news cycle and pick a less significant time to confess, but getting caught and lying would just have made that confession at a later date harder.
It sounds good. Take care. Really take care. Get some serious help. If you can talk to another (wise) man, you can save yourself and your marriage.
All the best from me too. If your wife is struggling with your confession and seems lost right now, which I'm quite sure she is, recommend her to have a look in here, even create an account so she can get help from other SO's. It's good that you confessed, one major step to beat the devil. I hope you two get your relationship working again.