Guys, i am kind on a situation, where i found a girl over a social network and we have been talking for a while.. We obviously start talking knowing, question each other .. She attempt to ask me how many partners i have had. And after a while i asked her aswell.. we live on the same city .. she was sincere and opened up about her sexual life, she told me she have had 10 partners ( boyfriends ) and some more guys to fuck with.. like 'colour friendship' to satisfy herself.. Her relationships wouldnt last long then a year. She reference. I am here not judging her, but i am kind like.. Its kinda difficult to accept her, she may like me but im not convinced to fully engage a serious relationship,and i am on a time to find someone worth. I need some opinions.. Should i give her a chance or she isnt worth the time?
I am Kinda of attracted to her but it was a big turn off. When she opened and she said she had 10 guys and some fuckable along tbe way but even to.. I dont know if i should move on to meet her, maybe if it will be for sexual thing.
Today mentallity, at least on my country its just 'we want to fuck even if we are with someone' i dont support this.
Doesn't sound like you guys are a match. Your values don't mesh...I'm not saying she's right or wrong, only that she's wrong for you. I would move on.
You are right.. I might be attracted just her 'body', we have talked on the phone. Yesterday for some quite time, i kinda enjoyed our conversation and she told she enjoyed to,, she was laughing a lot a stuff.. Until today i found about this. My head is thinking should i take risk? I value woman in the sense of wanting something real something long term, but knowing about she had like 10 boyfriends 'past' and fuckable ones 'past' im kinda thinking of ' well its past but she might cheat .
How old is the girl, how many years has these ten boyfriends spanned over? The amount of sexual partners she has had is irrelevant and doesn't make her potentially any less of a good person. She's just enjoying her life and her sexual liberty as most people do- maybe she is looking for the right guy. If she is wanting a one on one monogamous relationship with you like you do with her then I don't see why her past should get in the way of that. Out of interest how many girlfriends have you had?
10 is nothing, even 20 is nothing. I guess it depends on how old she is, but my own figures are way higher than that and well, I wouldn't want to be judged as I'm simply not that dude anymore. If someone has had a lot of partners then there will be a reason for it - if she's been very promiscuous, then she may have been seeking approval or validation or sexualising stress, and as such it will depend on where she's at now.
I'm in my late 40s though, and when I was in my twenties I guess I did used to judge a girl's past -- in hindsight it was none of my business and immature to be judging. If she's into you and you think she'll be loyal then her past won't affect your present.
She is 26, i can't say it right now, we are under the part of meeting up.. But has someone said our values dont seem to mesh. She sounds cute a little of playfull and i have seen when im without words with her she trys to make me talk. This brings my attention she might is interested on me.. But she revealing her life, brought me thinking a lot on, how this will affect me if i end up with her.
..that’s exactly what you’re doing. Which is fine. You have the right to be selective when it comes to finding a partner. Just keep in mind that it’s a million times easier for a woman to get laid, so you’re probably going to find that most girls will have a higher number than you do.
As a woman who's had her fair share of one night stands (just being honest) I can say you should give her a chance. Yes, people will talk and pass judgement. So what? If she's a good person that shows you compassion that should be more than enough to at least go on a few dates. If it goes south, move on. No harm, no foul. But you never wanna go through life asking "what if?"
Apparently I read this wrong. I thought you meant she currently has 10 boyfriends... But if she's saying she won't be faithful (if that's what the "colour relationship" means) then best not to get with her.
She had some buddies to have sexual pleasure, she didnt told me how many besides her boyfriends. This happened when she was single im not trying to Judge her but its a choice of risk knowing she could one day at my back cheat on thats what im worried, she wants to meet up with me and we have talked for sometime, but i am the point of, is this worth.
I can feel and say she feels something she have kept talking even to me when my attitude has changed, i have talk less and gave her lack of response,when she told me about her things. This made feel insecure about my choice, because im not looking into a girl history trophies, of course she might be might experienced, but she didnt had any relationship longer then a year stable, and was telling me she was looking for someone for long term but at the same time she add, she didnt want to get married excuses of marriage and wasting money on dress's etc, just the fact knowing she had fuck buddies kills me sinceraly. Everyone is free will to do anything but seems i am messing with fire I have values that have grown with me... and love for me i do value, im not the type of guy of one night stand im looking for someone that values love not only sex. Its good to satisfy yourself but with buddies? This is not love
I'd say give her a chance, she's being honest with you which is something that is underrated in today's world sadly. If you don't try you'll never know. Maybe she's dated the wrong kind of guys and you'll show her a different kind of guy. Be the kind of person you want to look for in a partner show her who you really are and want to be. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." - 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 I'm not sure if you're religious or not but at church yesterday we started a series on love, sex and dating and this verse was very prevalent then and I think it is here in your situation as well. That's my two cents.
I am depressed with life with this reason, recorring to porn knowing sex is the value of the society of modern day, if we are all here theres a motive for and some maybe share the same pain, love for me is beyond connecting with a person
I am depressed with life with this reason, recorring to porn knowing sex is the value of the society of modern day, if we are all here theres a motive for and some maybe share the same pain, love for me is beyond connecting with a person
If all her 10 relationships didnt last more then 1 year, then I will say there is something else wrong about her, not sex buddies or that she had 10 boyfriends, its just the past, I would rather think its something she currently have in the present, like some bad habbids or a stupid hidden personality. But she was honest with you, so I would give her a chance, maybe she wants to change or something, anyway, let us know how the date went.
If it's already stressing you to think about her past then you should just move on. It'll only get worse if you develop strong feelings for her. Find a woman who shares your values. Its okay for people to do their thing and it's also ok for you to do yours. If sex is meaningful to you it'll always be difficult to be with someone who has used it in such a casual manner. I say this as someone who has struggled greatly with this issue in my life.
