Hello! I’m 32 years old and I’ve been looking at porn regularly since I was about 15. We’re taking like right when the Internet went mainstream, I was finding ways to circumvent the library’s parental control blocks. Anyhow, I always looked at mostly “normal” porn for most of that time, but as I look back over the 15 years or so, and more so over the last couple years, I’ve realized that my porn preferences have definitely escalated to the point where the things I watch now are beginning to cause me a lot of guilt. I don’t watch anything illegal, nor do I have the urge to, but this pattern of descending into harder, more extreme content, along with the fact that I can sometimes blow 3-4 hours a day (I’m self employed and work at home) looking at porn and masturbating has caused me to realize I have a problem. That’s why I’m here. Today was my first day on the wagon. I’m married, so for me, it’s not about semen retention or cutting out sex altogether. It’s about giving my wife the affection she deserves instead of giving it to a computer screen. It’s about stopping a self destructive skid into more and more obscene porn. It’s about taking back my life and achieving the success I know I am capable of. This is the first time I’ve ever verbalized these things so by becoming a member here and talking through my issues with you all, I’m hopeful it will help me achieve my goal. Wish me luck!
Wow! That is long time man! But I absolutely respect that you wanna do this for yourself but also very much for your wife! I’d say at this stage porn is very much a part of your life, it’s a deep part of you. So when you finally beat it, you will be a different person! Kinda like the heavier the wheel the harder the turn you know? You will have urges, after 2 weeks your dick might be so sensitive that if you bump it, it will feel good but stay strong and prevail! Learn to take cold showers, it kills urges! When your mind starts thinking “sexy time” you have to actively make yourself think about something else! Do whatever you need to distract yourself, even call up a friend or relative just to force yourself to think about something else! Anyway good luck man, rootin for ya
Good luck to you mate! when the purpose you picked to abstain PMO overcomes the urge to spend a whole lot of time in front of a computer screen, then you shall achieve what you always needed.
You can do it man! One day you'll realize you never needed porn in your life, you will be experiencing the benefits of NoFap and it will open doors for you to become the man you wanted to be
Hey mate. According to my experience, let me give you some tips that will hep you overcome this addiction, and have a good life with your wife The things which you have to do : 1: BLOCK ALL PORN MATERIAL FROM THE INTERNET Don't give yourself a chance to watch porn. If you don't watch porn you will not get the urge to masturbate. And you can use the software called "Cold Turkey" this is a software that blocks the websites you want to block. So block all the pornographic websites and don't let yourself watch porn. 70% sure this will help you stop porn addiction and masturbation addiction. 2: LEARN ABOUT THE PROBLEMS THAT ARE CAUSED FROM OVER MASTURBATION Start gaining more knowledge on what happens, what are the diseases that are caused due to excess masturbation. So you know that the thing you are wanting to do is going to cause a lot of problems in the future. 3: SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR WIFE Spend as much time as possible with your wife. Implement all your sexual desires with your wife, not with yourself. Don't worry my friend, follow these steps and I am pretty sure you will be free from your porn addiction. ALL THE BEST
...wise decision, something that was an absolute game changer here was explaining to my girlfriend what had been happening. The expression 'a sick as our secrets' is more than just words, it's truly a phenomenon. Anyhoo this can be a positive alternative to log into rather than the other when urges occur. Best of luck *actually we make our own luck once we've decided to change*
I'm wondering if it's worth reminding yourself that no P is normal? The more you time you spend connected to pixels on a screen the more of your time and availability to be intimate (relational not just sexual) with someone who loves and trusts dwindles away. You took a huge step in deciding to quit P and even 1 day away from P is a sign of strength and something that can be built on.
If you read through a lot of the posts on here, you will find that your story is the same as many of us. In almost every case, at some point, the material you view for excitement, gets stale, and you start going to more extreme/darker areas for arousal. It is fantastic that you feel its a problem, because it is. All that energy and time you spend in the fantasy that Porn offers, the less actual intimate contact will appeal to you, you will think of the material that you are currently viewing to stay aroused. I did this for MANY years, I am not out of the woods yet, but I am starting to understand it much better, and how to better deal with it. I have been porn free for longer than the counter states, but still masturbated to its memory, and other memories, and decided that even that needed to stop, and all that energy needs channeled into my relationship with my wife. This is a sexual addiction, if you have problems, join a local SA group, being in an online community is one thing, meeting in person, each week, holds a certain amount of accountability, that might be able to help you keep away from it more effectively. Good luck, If you run out of tools to help you, find more tools!
your story is similar to mine and many others: same bad feelings about escalation of porn contents, same idea that the way i treat my gf is not fair, she would deserve more attention more demonstration of desire etc. I dont work from home but since Im back to school, I spent hours daily... on porn instead that on books...so sick. anyway,no lies, is not gonna be an easy trip, we all will find difficulties and have hard times. sometimes everything will seem pointless, and we will believe we are a lost cause. Other times we'll think we are too weak for such a great task, other we'll be just afraid and vulnerable, we'll have to look deeply inside our heart and our soul to find the strength, we'll find ourselves miserable but... in the end I think that already starting this way should make u proud, the desire to improve as a person and gets better, to be able to win addiction, to know yourself deeply, and then to give love to the ones who deserve it, make you a person who deserves the maximum degree of esteem. we deserve it. keep on and never give up. we are not alone
