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70 days of NoFap and I'm still not seeing any improvement.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by zxcv, Sep 21, 2017.

  1. zxcv

    zxcv Fapstronaut

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    I'm still not see any improvement on the self confidence or my abilities to be able to talk to girls. It still feels like porn was the closest I'll ever get to being with a girl.
     
  2. Rimejkdrama

    Rimejkdrama Fapstronaut

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    NoFap is a gate to self-inprovement. It wont give you more confidence but it let’s you inprove other aspects of your life which will give you that cofidence. You need to make changes in your lifestyle. And this will give you confidence
     
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  3. User047

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    I don't know for how long you have been addicted, but for most people 90 Days is not enough to completely rewire the brain!
    Are you still in a flatline?

    Hang in there, it will get better!
    Now, when you have freed yourself from the shackles of the porn addiction you have plenty of time to work on improving yourself. Read books, train your body. Do whatever you can to improve your life.
     
  4. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

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    NoFap isn't a cure all for everything.
     
  5. Nofap and abstaining from addictive use of porn, gives your brain's reward system, the time it needs to successfully rewire itself from seeking only joy through this negative habit. So you still need to change your lifestyle along the journey, but also you need to give this more time.
     
  6. ptrjovskis

    ptrjovskis Fapstronaut

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    The other commentators have already said it all, but what they say is true.
    NoFap isn't the thing that'll magically give you amazing willpower and phenomenal self-confidence, no, you have to work to get it. Let's take, for example, the ability to talk to girls. Excercise is everything. You have to talk to girls to get good at it. Just stopping with PMO doesn't magically make you amazing at talking with girls.

    I'm currently going through this, I am quite shy, also an introvert, so I like to be alone. However, I decided that I want to be able to talk to strangers (some youtube video inspired me) so I began talking to strangers. First just casually saying ´hello` to people I passed on the street, later I began to ask for help, which I actually didn't need. Now I'm at the stage where I can sit next to someone on the bus and just talk, I feel uncomfortable, yes, but when I started this "project" I would have had an anxiety-attack (if that's a thing) just thinking of it. So by making myself uncomfortable in a specific area, I managed to get rid of the uncomfortable feeling and also get good at something I thought was scary as hell.

    So to summarize it all - Do things you find uncomfortable, maybe such things as talking to strangers/girls and being able to have a conversation with that person, maybe work out, maybe wear clothes that you think look good on you but you think others will judge.

    Pardon my bad English and writing, I'm really tired.
    // a Swedish lad.
     
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  7. Andante

    Andante Fapstronaut

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    You need to be around positive people having a positive life to fully unlock the potential of no pmo. Do you have dreams, do you have a plan in your life?
     

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