So I've always known I kind of had this problem, but I never stopped to really think about how it had taken control of me..... Time to fix this!
Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you. The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
I don't really know what I'm doing. My goal is to get things working again so I can have quality sex w the wife. So far I'm just avoiding P and M. This is the longest I have been without P in over 20 years. Already have a battle with the mind going on regarding thinking about sex, but I'm not sure if it is OK to think about it as long as I don't M. Also, my thought is if I ever get to the point where I have a raging hard on I might try sex w the wife. Not sure about that either.
I'd say the best way to combat thinking about it in the first place is to get rid of any porn on your cpu and/or phone. It makes it 10 times harder if you don't. Also reading about everyone else's benefits is what motivates me.
It takes time. You're going to think about it for a while. Your brain has been conditioned to do so. I just try to keep busy. I'd say the biggest enemy is boredom. Once you get bored and you have the opportunity it's more likely to happen. Stay as busy as you can. I still think about sex but it will slowly change. Like my thoughts aren't as perverse and objectified as they once were. Instead of me imagining or even seeing a woman and just thinking about all the nasty stuff I could do with her I see them and just notice how nice they look. I might even say, yea I'd fuck her. It's just not as in depth as me going through a whole scenario and thinking about me cumming on their face or something. I'll say I'd have sex with whomever and that's it. Eventually that will probably stop is my guess. It's definitely a lot better though. Just takes time and that's after only like 10 days for me.
Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips which may help you along your journey. Associating with other married men is also helpful as well. Here are just a few that come to mind: @JohnQ3369 @phuck-porn! @ILoathePorn @FreshStartJames @i_wanna_get_better1 @Scruff Each of these men, and there are countless more, who have shared there struggles, although different, but may be encouragement to you.
I'm a married man myself, it's tough but doable you have to think of other things be strong talk to someone
