Can you give us any insight into what brought you down after such a long streak? Was it irresistible urges or edging or boredom or something else?
Hey, @artifact. Don’t mean to pry; just trying to be supportive here. What’s driving those urges? When/where are they happening? What is the game plan for when they occur? One of the biggest pieces of my reboot has been anticipating and planning. Having the game plan in place ahead of time probably saved me from a few resets/relapses.
Yah...i was hit by a strong urges. Im not very good at fighting them off. I did for a while , but my first and fatal mistake was allowing triggers via watching arousing content on youtube
10 days down. Working today and through the weekend, so the next challenge will be Monday and Tuesday. Saw a show last night that dealt with Internet addiction in all its forms. So many people and so many dopamine-related struggles.
Checking in today. Still learning how to deal with temptations and urges. My toughest triggers are when I see a really attractive woman. Yesterday I saw a a woman in a short skirt with really tight top at the grocery store. I think she looked like she could in porn or an escort. I couldn’t fight off the temptation to ogle and i had rush like when watching porn. Luckily I able to just deal with it until my strong urges for PMO passed. Best of luck to everyone this group to stay strong. You can see more about me at My journal. at https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/48-y-o-male-sharing-the-battle.231081/#post-2060979
Haven't signed on again since my last post. Very kind reply. I know I need some sort of accountability. When I'm around others (with family or when I've lived with a girlfriend) it wasn't so easy to go off alone and PMO, so I didn't. I live alone at home and I do need a sense of shame. Shame is a good thing at times. That's what accountability is about. I'd be open to ideas. I started meditating the past few days and I could see how that helps but doesn't solve the issue. Maybe some sort of system where I need to check in every X number of days, or I get booted out of group. Not sure what to do.
Relapsed just now. I find it insane how we keep going back to what we all say we want to get away from. I was 11 days in and things were fine. I ended up seeing some suggestive images in the course of normal activity.....and its like I lost control and dove in head first.
Yes, I definitely have a game plan for dealing with urges, unfortunately none of that worked last night and I ended up crashing and burning.
@artifact Sorry to hear that. Keep looking forward, not backwards. "When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves." -- William Ward
Day 8. Two days away from my first milestone of 10 days...looking forward to reclaiming the ground I previously owned.
Checking in. Been a couple of easy days after the challenges of the middle of the week. Education and learning more about NoFap and reboots has kept me going strong. Sorry to see so many people relapsing in the group. Keep the long term in mind, not the few seconds of release. You all know the longer term benefits and feeling you want to achieve - keep that in focus.
I was hoping to "lead the way" to new heights, as you said, but it was just not in the cards for me this time.
Key words in your post, “this time” Learn and start again. Educate yourself and be a better you! You can do it, we all can.