Though today doesn't feel special as opposed to the past 32 days, it is. Today I broke my record of one month, which I had achieved only once before, about 4 years ago. One month is long and a great achievement. The day before reaching it, I felt great, because I knew I was gonna get there, and here I am. But now that I'm passed that day, I'm down-to-earth again. There is no difference in temptation. When I see hot women I can't help checking them out from bottom to top. When I'm with friends talking about women, I can't help thinking about, desiring and craving. That is normal proof of my healthy sexuality, but it means that every day, I have to consciously work on my peace of mind, so I can get through the day without being caught in a pattern of thoughts that leads to P. It's like I have not really achieved anything yet and have to continue checking myself on a daily basis, rather than starting to set weekly goals or something like that. Despite of that, I do suspect my brains of rewiring activity, noticing an increasingly automatic calmness as my reaction to upcoming urges. It takes me a bit less effort, as it comes more naturally. That is very valuable. Big thanks @NoFap community for the support!
That's awesome! I know how hard it is trying to get to 30, so appreciate the inspiration. I hope you find overall recovery, I guess with any addiction it's normal for the odd day to feel bad or have urges, gotta keep thinking of the long term. Good stuff.
thats great man. i started this one year ago and besides my first streak when i discovered the website, i haven´t made it to even 30 days again! so i know how tough this is for all of us! keep it up!
Thank you brother. I really hope that you will get there too, soon. You have said "no" for 21 days in a row. Now, tell yourself everyday how it is definitely in your reach to add just one more "no" to that row.
Thanks man. I wish for you to get back to 30. I'm sure it would give you a boost of confidence. In my mind, all becomes much more possible if I do not look further than 1 day. Start the day with accepting that you might give in on that day. And then tell yourself that you don't want it to be this day and you will focus all day if necessary.
This is so great! I know what you're going through. I began watching porn more than 10 years ago and it's about 3 years now that I seriously try to quit. You say, you're not feeling it. But I hope that the feedback of the Community makes you feel it! And I would suggest that you celebrate your success (without triggers oc). 30 Days is great, it means a lot! But don't fall off from here. Go for 60, for 90 ... I wish you the best!
Congratulations - this is a difficult battle but keep persevering and always stay aware. You can do it!
Excellent job. 30 days is a remarkable achievement. I'm on day 8 and I've already struggled to make it to tomorrow. Hopefully I'll be up there with you by next month.
Congrats on the new record keep it up! Regarding your thoughts toward attractive women, there’s nothing wrong with appreciating beauty, I might even suggest trying to find a “safe compliment” to give them. This would get a conversation going and hopefully take you out of your own head where the fantasy is building. The unrealistic, one sided fantasies are what I believe we’re all trying to get under control. Best wishes, and congrats again!
Congrats, by the way. Me too it's the first time in the last 4 or 6 years to reach the 30 days. I feel way better but i have a bit of a fear to lose my sobriety. I guess that's normal. Isn't it?
Thank you my friends. I hope you'll reach new heights soon, too. You know you can do it. It helps putting your strategy, effort and progress on top of your mind every day. Thank you! Congrats yourself on your amazing streak! Thanks! I'm doing exactly as well as you! Let us go further, adding a small step every day. Thanks bro. I wish for you to make a breakthrough very soon. Thanks man, also for that constructive feedback. Giving a compliment definitely works! I did it a couple of times and it instantly creates a small connection. But often you need to approach someone first, rather than that she is already standing next to you (by chance , because your friend introduced you to her, ...). That makes is so much more difficult, right?
Hey man. Cool to hear you're in a similar stage of progress! Congrats. I think it's very typically human to now be a little bit afraid of "losing all that we have build until now". But why should we be thinking about how we can lose it all today, instead of about how we will add one more day today? In essence, how different is this day from yesterday or any day before that? It's funny. We feel worse when we go back to 0 after 30 disciplined days than when we go back to 0 after 3 disciplined days. Why? Didn't we achieve much more? Again, why should we be thinking about how we lost so much, instead of how we were able to be disciplined for so long?
That is amazing you inspire me man. I have never hit 30 days and that is an amazing achievement. I am proud of you man!