Hi, newbie here, with a question regarding PE. I started rebooting 26 days ago after discovering that TED video. I suffer from both ED and PE, so my motivation to reboot is extremely high (and understanding the connection between porn and sexual dysfunction has made it much easier to reboot). I understand that my ED is most likely porn-induced. As for PE, I've read conflicting stories. Some guys claim that not fapping cured their PE while other guys claim it actually created PE issues. What's the real story?
The real story is a personal one. Each guy is very different. For me, it really depends on how I feel. Sometimes when I'm having sex I can go to town and have full control. Other times I may be feeling especially amorous and I have no control. It's a combination of physical sensitivity, mental control, and arousal. Just find your balance. I'm still working on mine.
Thanks for the advice. I guess half the problem is that as soon as I start having sex, I'm anxiously expecting PE at any moment. It will be a massive relief to at least alleviate ED once my porn-saturated brain is normalized. Hopefully that will boost my self-confidence enough to positively affect my PE too.
Clever idea, thanks for sharing. Sometimes I used PMO (or just MO) before having sex to avoid PE. I'm not as horny, not as sensitive, I should last longer, right? In fact: yes, it works. BUT. The thing is I've been talking about this with a friend of mine, and she honestly said, that she really doesn't mind his guy to cum early, if he doesn't watch porn at all. It's more important for her to be really connected to her partner than to have sex for more than 15-20 minutes. Of course this requires a strong relationship, you probably won't get away with PE in a one night stand. Anyway, it's just one girls opinion (she's 28 btw) but I've heard similar things from other girls so this may apply to a lot of girls. Also, if after the reboot you still have PE problems, there are countless ways to deal with that too, and if your gf/wife knows that you're porn free, she's likely to be more than willing to help you with everything. Of course as I mentioned, this has to be a strong relationship.
im gravitating gowards PE myself, but sometimes its better. When im really horny or with a new girl its hard to control. but i would also advice to start slowly. and most important relax. try to relax all your muscles. and dont think, try to concentrate on how you feel. If youre to tense generally maybe it helps if you try some meditation. on a good day you will be able to bring your arousal up and down and "surf" below the "point of no return" to orgasm for quite a while. its a really nice feeling you dont want to come to orgasm anymore
TIP: one trick that has helped me tremendously with lasting longer in bed (and it can work also on PE) is to relax. When your muscles are tense, when you are tense, you are very likely to ejaculate. Try to relax and move the focus away from the genital area. You can use the breath as an indicator of how relaxed you are, but also to relax yourself. If you are tense then the breath will be superficial and/or you won't be breathing for some time. If you are relaxed then your breath will be long and slow. In my opinion, you could be also thrusting like a porn-star and still be relaxed and have a slow breath.
Brain is the greatest Sexual Organ...you got to rewire it to desensitise it against the rush of love and to make it calmer and soothing.
But great thread! If you're still on here, it sound like the best way to beat this problem is to just keep up with No PMO. Check out Gabe Deem's youtube channel reboot nation if you're having any sort of sexual dysfunction. It may just be related to your porn or masturbation use, especially if you are still young.
I have been struggling with PE for a while and this tip allowed me to have successful sex twice last night lasting around 20 minutes (by choice) both times. Thank you so much DateofLies!
For me the position makes a big difference. If my wife is on top that can last for a long time. If I am on top it does not! Probably everyone is wired a little differently so ymmv. Thing two which isnt really a solution per se...I try to go down on my wife first totally focus on her. If she climaxes before intercourse not so big a deal if it ends quickly. Thing three....when it happens just own it. She is hot what can you do? Tell her you love her and go for it again.
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