hi all, have been relapsing, and find i get creative when i do and find ways around all my blockers on the laptop. i had been feeling good, and did a 9 day stretch, a 6 day stretch with only 1 relapse in between, but then i have been going 1 day on and 1 day off, and now back to daily. the periods of non access, worked and were great as i just didnt think i could access it all. i know that the answer is i need to get control over this but i feel that blockers help my mind appreciate i cannot access the material. howevr in the last 2/3 weeks i have been getting creative, staying up late and found ways round the blockers including k9. does anyone know of any better blockers or any paid for blockers that are better? my issue at the moment is i have found a host of unblocking sites that host or link to items that k9 doesnt block. appreciate thoughts beyond the blockers as i realise that is not that answer either, but just a tool thanks
Covenant Eyes is a paid service, but it might be worth it, especially if you have a couple of accountability partners. I believe it has its own filter, but the main benefit is that it will send reports of your Internet usage to accountability partners. It will even send reports of periods when it has been disabled, so even though there will be ways around it, you'll have to explain to your accountability partners what happened, which probably isn't something you'll want to do. I suppose you could set this up with online partners, but it would probably be better with real-life ones. If you don't have any, perhaps attend an SA meeting or two.
I've been here, finding ways around blockers. I don't bother with blockers anymore because I actually find I relapse more when I use them. I think it's more important for me to learn to choose not to watch porn rather than restrict myself from it. But that's just me. If you're really serious, install StayFocusd and use the 'nuclear mode' on it. Basically, all websites are blocked except those of your choice, but that doesn't always work if you have to use your computer for work/research purposes. There are more features on the StayFocusd addon, and it's free, so I recommend checking it out
i agree, it needs to come from me. will cover myself off with blockers i have and leave them, the set up on laptop is secure now, on phone not so yet but the focus is more, in my head think answer is a replacement activity
I use porn blocker on my iPad and phone. I also use the parental restrictions on the phone as a backup.