A poll to compare sensitivity loss. If you have had diminished sensitivity and regained it during or after a reboot, please say so in comments. Thank you
I think numbness is more related to delayed ejaculation (DE) than to porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED). At least in my case they are not related. I have suffered from PIED my whole life, but the few times I manage to get hard, I tend to orgasm rather fast instead. The reason is probably because of my masturbation technique. I've not used the "deathgrip" and I used to edge a lot, which probably made my penis more sensitive than it would otherwise have been.
Before starting Nofap I could not get hard at all when sleeping with girls. I slept with my first girl when I was 19, but I did not get aroused at all. At first I thought it was because of anxiety, but when it persisted with every girl I slept with, I knew something was wrong. I even started questioning my own sexuality. When I later started with Nofap in early 2014, I managed to get a streak of 30 days while I was seeing a girl. And YES, it worked. I lost my virginity with that girl and had sex multiple times after that. The most amazing feeling was when I got a boner, just by kissing her. I've never really understood the deal with kisses before, since they never used to arouse me. Now I understand, that I was just so deep in my porn addiction long before I had my first kiss, that my brain never had the chance to wire it to something sexual. Heck, no intimacy or touch used to get me aroused at all. Sadly, the girl I was seeing did not want a relationship and other things happened in life, which made me depressed and I stopped trying for almost 2 years, until just recently when I've now started again. But in conclusion: being free from PMO really helped my PIED in just 30 days.
I think about 3 to 4 weeks I noticed a huge improvement. I relapsed, and my PIED returned with vengence. I can't say I'm numb, I had a day of that. My junk feels so hungry, so the opposite. I am on day 6 with no personal physical contact and no pmo. It gets hard for a minute or two but sits in more of a vaguely limp state, but goes away when it comes to sex, or when I move to go in.
I had PIED, at least a good begining of a PIED syndrome. I stopped PMO'ing for a few weeks and I was back to normal..lucky me. I don't feel that my penis lost sensitivity. It was my brain that lost sensitivity to real sex stimuli... Ok I had a little death grip issue, so my wife couln't make me come with her hand (too much of a physical effort) or with BJ (not enough) sensation. some sort of DE I guess. But during PIV, I had PE..caused by my high level of excitation and a position where I was ramming like its out of style... Now, I re-learn how to real sex lol!
My penis had lost some sensitivity but not a terrible amount. But whenever I was having sex it would go soft in under a minute in. I rarely every came. I went to a therapist to find some answers. She said that I was not in the moment when I was having sex which didn't make a whole lot of sense to me. I started looking on the internet for answers and finally ran across some stuff by Gary Wilson and found my way to here.
I believe some of us have compressed and or damaged our pudendal nerve by sitting and Oing too much. If you have severe ED/ numbness, I recommend looking into pudendal nerve entrapment recovery. I was completely numb for years (even hot and cold) and am now at about the 10-25% range.
I've noticed decline in performance personally. I don't think im too far down the rabbit hole but it's a encouragement to stop, if not just for my own self respect and prevention of long term damage.
Can't compare, the memories of the time before are too blurred and one's interpretation constantly changes. Probably numbed a little, but not much.
Funny cause in my case it's the opposite, whenever I've had any ED problems they were at the moment of going in but once I managed to get in I got harder. Maybe cause I was drunk and it was more alcohol induced than porn induced lol
Mine isn't as bad as some stories I've heard but I do have some level and it's frustrating at times. For example I can get very hard from foreplay but once I'm in I have about 10 maybe 15 minutes tops to O before I start losing erection strength due to lack OD adequate sensation and pressure/grip (I'm a death grip pmo'er unfortunately). Also my gf is very outgoing and knows I'm into rougher sex so she allows me to do some stuff which helps me stay turned on for longer but sometimes(usually after watching a mushy chick flick or being emotional for no reason) she wants me to go slow and be all sensual or let her get on top and in that case there have been times where I barely last maybe 2-3 minutes before I start losing erection strength. My gf has not been able to get me to O from a hand job and oral only works if I'm going very, VERY fast and there is alot of pressure/grip. I find that to be best even better than pmo but that's like a special occasion kind of treat because my gf doesn't really like it and she says it makes her feel gross and like she's just being used. It's hard because I don't want to make her feel like she has to do something she doesn't want to but sometimes it's the only way I can O unless I just use my hand and P and she's made it extremely clear that if she catches me using p it's over. It can be very frustrating sometimes and I never knew p could mess me up so much. I've been pmo free almost 2 weeks now but I still am having issues and I just don't get it when will my pied go away. Should I stop having sex altogether?
If you go a month without thinking about sex or MO you should get better. If you go a month and still have problems, don't worry... just keep abstaining until they are gone. Also, I don't think rough sex is normal, but rather a product of desensitization. Of course, I can only judge my own relative sense of normality, but before I watched porn, I never even thought of rough sex.
I like rougher sex better because I can usually be turned on longer. Here lately my pied seems to come and go. It usually doesn't take as long for me for my pied to go away during a streak but everyone is different. But I know exactly what you mean by her being on top. I either don't last very long at all or else I need to O very fast. It sucks but I know just staying with nofap will work.
Hey there please tell me what you had to go through in order to recover sensation..I am really struggling and very uncomfortable from the numbness, I would so much love to hear what kind of treatments were able to get you better. Thanks.