Hey, my name is David and I'm 20 years old. I've been masturbating since early on in my life. I am confident that I have been doing so all of these years to numb my feelings of anxiety and loneliness.. But that all changes now! Today I am starting a 90-day challenge of no PMO, and while I have come close to masturbating and watching porn I have been able to stop myself every few hours. I am also an undergrad student and hope this change will help me study for final exams more effectively and become more productive in general. I hope to become more optimistic and confident along this journey and gain the courage to start dating and exploring a potential relationship with a girl.
Hi @champion42 ! If you haven't already done so, please read the "Getting Started Guide" available on this site's (noFAP) home page. It has answers to many questions you may have, and includes a lot of information to help you get started on your journey of healing. Also have a look at the "Glossary" (look for it on the toolbar at the top of this page) for definitions of abbreviations and terms that may be unfamiliar to you. You mention a few reasons for being here ... all good ... Think hard about what your really need to accomplish here. Whatever your goals and reasons for pursuing them are fine, as long as its something you really believe in and are willing to work hard to progress towards. Sometimes writing out goals and "the reason why I am here" helps clarify thinking. After you have your goals clear in your mind, think about how you will keep them constantly fresh in your mind. One way is to read your written goals twice - or more - times each day, every day. When we lose sight of our goals and reason for being here, motivation weakens and resets and relapses often follow. There is more, but for now, read the "guide" and then work on your goals and how you'll keep them constantly fresh in your mind. If you have questions not answered in the "guide" or other concerns, search this site's forum postings and if you still can't find an answer, post a question in one of the forums here. One day at a time is how we all succeed.
This is a good start https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/watch-this-if-youre-struggling.232140/ Good luck
Good. Keep reminding yourself every day of your goals and why you are here. Doing so will help sustain your motivation. One day at a time is how we all succeed.