Can I have sex

You can have sex if you want. As you say, it is not evil or bad. However, there is more to the decision than simply that.

We have all got into a mess from the overstimulation of the brain's dopamine-fuelled reward circuit. That reward circuit will light up during any sexual activity (solo or partnered). To obtain the best healing I recommend you stop sex in all it's forms.

 

I think you answered your own question. Although, @IGY has a point, that it's not always a simple answer. It really depends on what your recovery looks like. I'm on day 42 and regularly have sex with my wife. I believe it helps my personal recovery as well as rebuilds the relationship my addiction nearly destroyed. That said, my wife she and I regularly discuss my recovery and, if ever our sexual interactions began to hinder recovery, we both agreed the option was there to put sex on hold.

 

Whether or not sex is good for you depends a lot on your personal background. There's also a huge difference between a one night stand and sex in a committed relationship.

As for me, I am not planning to "get laid" anymore. That only messed me up in the past. But I certainly am waiting for a woman in my arms to build a trusting relationship with.

 

I cut porn and masturbation out of my life only several weeks ago, but am in a fairly new relationship. I realized early into the relationship that my porn habits were impacting our time together, as I was experiencing DE. I told myself it was due to my depression anxiety, but finally I had to accept that it was really my usage habits that were impacting my performance, and if anything only secondarily making the depression and anxiety worse.

The other night, after only several weeks, I was able to orgasm with my girlfriend during sex, which made me feel very happy and lucky. I might have caught this issue early on, but regardless I would say if you're going to continue to have sex, try to be in the moment with your partner and not make it goal oriented. From the literature, especially with ybop, intimate contact with a real partner can help you rewire your brain, so so long as you're not stimulating on your own, and you're working on being in the moment, my personal feeling is it can still be beneficial!

 

In my humble opinion, it's ok to have sex, particularly if the sex has some emotional bonding/intimacy.
Actually, I'm kind of in the same boat... I'm married and I am NOT going to stop having sex with my wife. It's not every day that she lets me. So when she offers it, I'm taking it.