Hmmm..shyness is about focusing on the self and not about others. Ok here is your mission. Go up to this girl next time you see her and strike up a conversation (Yes I know this is a big task) Don’t care about the outcome. Don’t look for a date You obviously like to workout, so do I, i was a trainer for many years. How do you get stronger? Push weights This is your first weight. You are building the muscle of courage. If you are nervous, that’s great, see it, acknowledge it, but still keep walking towards her and say hi. Ask her name, say you noticed her in here before and thought it would be nice to introduce yourself. Let her take it from there.
I thank you for the advice, I add that I am usually more shy with the girls that I like, sometimes I can not even look at her face
I can be the same way brother..just work on building courage..then the demons won’t stop you even if you hear them yelling.
Maybe read up about being an introvert. That helped me a lot to understand myself better and realize that a lot of what society considers an issue to overcome, like being quiet or shy, is actually just a personality style and theres nothing wrong with it. I havent read it yet, but I've heard that Quiet, by Susan Cain, is a really good book.