"Freedom is when I have the power to do the right thing, not being lead by my passions and impulses, but being led by righteousness, sincerity and every other morally correct concept." best summary of Freedom ever.
Perhaps freedom is when what you want to do is also what is right. Your rational desire is in control of irrational desires. I think Aristotle referred to it as continence. Freedom for us is usually thought in negative terms as in freedom from..., but it is a substantial positive thing as in freedom for..... Congrats on your streak~~ Edit, Snow white said the same thing
DAY 57 OF 90 (63.33%) Today I'm celebrating 64 days since last MO. About last time I saw P, I don't remember the date but it was on December 2016. And, this is my 57th day in the challenge. Before I started this challenge, I mean, during year 2016, I tried many times to leave PMO, I read testimonials and looked for resources to change that behavior. I reached two or three weeks (at most) free of PMO, but then I fell again and again, over and over again. That was so frustrating, I felt depressed. But now I think that to reach what I'm reaching now, it was necessary to have a process. I consider that process begins when you are not happy with that PMO behavior anymore, when you don't feel comfortable with that kind of "pleasure". But that's not all, that's just the beginning. Next step isn't just trying to forget the habit or ignoring the problem, we have to research for resources, ask help to close relatives like wife or parents. I mention these two, because they might be the unconditional. Everything is a process. We can't reach the top of a mountain if we are not prepared to walk first, then run, then climb, sometimes fall, but over all, the process should teach us patience and discipline. Then we would be ready to be at top.
Well, last months I've been a posts reader more than a writer. Today I'm committing myself again to write a continual report of my progress (or not progress). I mean, when I began this nofap journey, six months ago, my only motivation was to reach the 90 days goal as a personal challenge. I think, it wasn't the best inner motivation. Why do I say this? Well, I reached the 90-day-goal in April and when I was there on top (the top of my goal) I realized that the goal wasn't as glorious as I expected. Anyway I decided to stay clean. I didn't established new goals, so I became self-indulgent about edging, watching women's pictures (not porn, but it was triggering me up), and fantasizing. Finally, by day 126 I relapsed. I consider that my restoration process didn't end that relapse day. Though June was a hard month for me, because I allowed myself two PMO events, I could stand up and continue the way up. Today I'm in day 33 since then. In other times, a single relapse would lead to months and months of PMO. So, a benefit by itself is that this year (2017) I've M'ed three times. These statistics make last six months the best in many time. Now, the point of my post. Today I learned that challenges are not about establishing goals but establishing systems. My method won't be to reach 90 days of no PMO, it will be about establishing a daily system of actions. Daily goals. Daily success. The method is to identify what leads me to desire PMO (or urges) and to establish an emergency manual ('what to do in case of emergency'). I suggest to watch this short video. It's not big information, but these ideas may provide a new approach for the motivation of doing the reboot.
¿Qué, pues, diremos? ¿Perseveraremos en el pecado para que la gracia abunde? Romanos 6:1 RV60 What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? Romans 6:1 KJV Que dirons-nous donc? Demeurerions-nous dans le péché, afin que la grâce abonde? Romains 6:1 LSG
Good stuff here!! I am realizing this slowly but surely!!! Thank you for the hope and strength that no PMO can bring !!!!