Okay, this is depth psychology, I'll attempt to simplify it. Being a human, we have a lot of different aspects of our psyches (pronounced sy-kee) (think of this as the mind). Being a Male, there are certain aspects that we portray to the world, and certain aspects that we neglect (we usually neglect the feminine parts of ourselves). If you neglect those aspects of yourself too much, then they will try to make themselves more apparent in your life by making you obsessed with people who have the traits that you neglect. You said yourself that you and her are night and day. I have seen many men obsessed with a random woman for no apparent reason. It's because their psyche is trying to tell you something. It's trying to say, "stop repressing these aspects of me and integrate them into your personality."
74/90 hard mode...it’s been tough today, busy and frustrated...looked at a non nude risqué pic and was like, “not going there,” post on nofap time...on these tough days pmo addiction knows we’re on the ropes, but I’m gonna accept the beating, open to the pain with an open heart and make it to the next round!!!!
Day 19. Quote of the day "Accept the challenges so that you can feel the exhilaration of victory." George S. Patton
So after that what I realised...I spent my time learning about my subject. My fav subject. Thanks for the support. I will make my streak worthy.
Wow it feels nice, control your body and the way you think. I have discovered so many things in this journey, now i think self-steem is the key. To stop doing pmo wasjust treat me nice, no guilty feeling or bad words to me, never something i have not done before, it was like a present from me to me. it is a daily job not to pull you down because of what you did i the past or if you relapse, always treat yourself gently, as you were your best friend, to build a good relationship with yourself, take you out, feed you healthy, feed you mind , to have a supportive group and stop feeling ashamed. Self -steem was the key for me, to know my feelings and the reality of pmo just to increase endorfine , i can now get it fron other activities. pleasure from other activities. Thank you, my life just change thanks to this forum.
Day 60, two months doing the work to get out of my addcition. To come to that point, I have been already working for 1 year on my own with my addiction and 3 years since I recognized it. I notice that I have still the mind of the addict but I also see that the time spent on getting out of my worst habits has been well spent and is now paying off. I can say I have taken a good desition every day between sex and confronting the difficulties of life. Sometimes I feel sad for the time I loose or overwhelmed with all the things I have to work on. But the taste of life has changed for me and every difficult moment of this 60 days worth this feeling of retreaving a sensation for aesthtics I look for in life. My way in life has to do with beauty, either struggeling with it or looking for it. I understand now what is the sensation that I want to bring into my life. The things that I need to achieve happiness are not crazy or imposible things, and this subtilty of what I am looking for wouldn't have revealed to me without quiting my addiction. I give you this video that was very revealing for me. I wish you the best!!
Can you send me PM a link to this Video, I cannot see it because Youtube is not allowed on my device.
