[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Black Duke · Apr 14, 2019

Thanks bro. Very useful tups indeed. I'm committed

RiseToGreatness said: ↑

Welcome my friend, 14 days is quite good. lot´s of newcomers don´t reach double digits, so your streak for a start is pretty good

stay with us, sharing not only motivates you but also motivate others. here´s some pointers to a safe and strong reboot.

1 - know your enemy. read this book "wack: addicted to internet porn" from noah church, it´s free on his website.

2 - recognize beyond any doubt that your an addict. not someone who has a bad habit. on "wack" there´s a test to see how deep is the addiction and how much is damaging you.

3 - once you accept the truth, recognize that you can´t control PMO usage. don´t waste precious time of your life trying to fit porn in your life, you can´t control this thing. “Oh… maybe on these days, or only on that days….” Forget it. See for yourself, if you could control this you wouldn´t be an addict in the first place. the only way to break free from the addiction is to abstain from all sexual indulgence till a point you have no desire to PMO. 90 days usually is the standard time, sometimes it may take long.

4 - motivate yourself daily to do the reboot. PMO destroys a lot of areas in life, but what is that one thing that really pisses you off? Why do you really need to overcome the addiction? What´s your central issue? find it. That´s your main motivation. Motivate several times especially in the first weeks, cause the urges and porn thoughts will be very alive and kicking. motivation can come from a text, a video, a music, whatever, anything that boosts you do keep doing the reboot. Also motivate yourself on the end of any PMO free day with the efforts that you made. mark your victories. write sentences like:
“Today i was about to peak but i did something else”
“Today i had a strong urge but i didn´t touch myself”
“Today i treated woman with kindness and respect and not like a pervert” …

5 – you can´t do this alone. Studies show that is very rare to someone to overcome an addiction alone, almost impossible. That´s because the very feeding ground of addictions is isolation. So the treatment goes in the opposite direction. You need partners, groups, therapy, forums, whatever, do as you prefer, but stay in touch.

6 - create physical barriers against PMO cause willpower alone will not do. this means install porn blockers and usage of electronic devices with screens facing exposure. in extreme cases forbide yourself from being home alone with electronic devices.

7 - delete any sexual/erotic material that you have. if you keep something with you that means you´re keeping the flame alive.

8 - withdrawal is hard, sometimes harder than the addiction. but after some days/weeks the withdrawal ends, the addiction never ends. Prepare yourself for fatigue, irritation, deep sadness, insomnia, brain fog, headaches, etc... but don´t worry, after a while energy will start to rise and you´ll feel amazing . it´s worth all the efforts. to minimize withdrawal always stay well fed, hidratated, an build a good sleep hygiene. sleeping pills and antidepressives can also help.

9 – Avoid alcohol and sugar consumption. These substances drain energy and promote lethargy and depression. Never get drunk. Excessive alcohol prevents your brain for rewiring, leads to (extra) fatigue, irritation and brain fog. it will also deplete your willpower making you more likely to relapse. Also stay away from screens, wether TV, PC, mobile, whatever.... screens cultivate a passive attitude. it robs awareness and creates dullness, tiredness and sadness. if you want to interact with screens that´s fine but only for a specific reason. when that reason is over, the viewing must be over also.

10 – practice meditation daily or any kind of relaxation technique. This is very important to calm the body against urges and help cope with withdrawal symptoms.

11 – Negative feelings are common triggers to PMO. If you feel bored follow the trail of inspiration, ask yourself "what do i really wanna do right now?" and act out on the answer. Even if at first you only feel a small pull, do it anyway. After a while energy will increase so as the mood and you´ll be inspired to do other things. If you feel sad try to talk with someone about that, and do something pleasant. Stronger emotions like anger or hurt i recommend meditation. A good exercise is the 3 minute breathing space meditation, it´s specifically designed to cope with hard moments.

12 - in the reboot you´ll have flatline periods (total absence of sexual desire) and periods of strong sexual urges. to deal with urges my recommendation is to let them be, just observe them, don´t engage in them. keep doing whatever you´re doing. the urge may be very strong, but it will pass, it will pass totally. in extreme cases, click the panic button on nofap, get out of the house or take a cold shower.

13 - do physical exercise regularly. that will boost your mood and release sexual energy in a positive way.

14 - write a goodbye letter to porn. be brutally honest. an addiction is also a relationship so cry your heart out, say all the things you want to say, and say goodbye.

15 – stay dynamic and active. this is the step i found more important (sideways with the daily motivation). why? because you´re not only abstaining from porn/masturbation, you have to replace those behaviours for others. or else porn will return, no matter how much time as gone by. So fill the free time, work on your passions, live your dreams, one day at a time. Don´t give importance to what day you´re in, the change is forever so don´t care about the 90 days. Impulsivess is an old friend of the addiction.

16 - the addicted mind will not break easily. it´s likely that you´re gonna relapse, relapse a lot. the key is too keep going, never give up. if you don´t give up you will make it. Garanteed. This aplies with everything in life. You just have to want it, badly. If you want it you´ll get it, you will find a way. Garanteed. All the excuses that we put up “oh i´m not strong enough”, “not smart enough” “not good looking” “not rich enough”, “oh, i´m super addicted” “oh, i´m just unlucky” bla bla it´s all ideas, beliefs that are not tested, excuses to justify failure and make us feel pity for yourselfs while time is passing by. Plain and simple, if your not getting what you want, it´s not because of circunstances, it´s due to lack of determination. Perseverance is the game changer. So in each relapse try to know something about yourself, how your mind works, what are the triggers. knowledge is power. If you relapse try not to binge (relapse multiple times), the bigger the binging the harder will the withdrawal.

17 - avoid any kind of sexual stimulation. Anything that we consciously engage with a lustful purpose: engage in viewing, engage in touching... will make dopamine being release on the already unbalanced brain. stimulation will increase urges and deplete the motivation for other things (as PMO is still the main drive). So don´t believe your mind if it tells you to peak, it never wants just that. after that, the addiction will kick in strongly and start pounding until it breaks you. The same goes for edging. So it´s better to not even start. The ideal is to make a 180º shift on reality. Engage in totally different activities through the day. luckly there´s a million to do things that have nothing to do with sex. if you have a partner and want to have normal intercourse try to abstain at least on the first weeks to give the brain a rest. If you do sex but thinking on porn that means you´re using your partner as an object. That´s a relapse.

18 - you can never go back to porn. this probably is the harshest truth you can hear (it was mine, and it is for many people) but it´s the truth nevertheless. Why? 3 major reasons.

- you´ll be an ex-addicted, always. that means you will never have a normal relation with porn, your soft spot is porn. if you engage in PMO again, sooner or later you´ll become an addict, again.
- PMO happens in isolation, there´s no social PMO, which means that not only your likely to associate exciting feelings to PMO behaviour, but also negative feelings, which means that you´ll associate PMO with pretty much everything that happens to you. In fact, this is one of the core mechanisms for an addiction to surface.
- in high speed internet, there´s an infinite suply of sexual material, new sexual material. dopamine is released not only by viewing and fapping but also by searching novely. once you give your brain a taste of the "stuff" it will crave for more. always more.

19 - destroying any hope of going back to PMO will make the reboot stronger and more determinated. This is because some fapstronauts secretly do the reboot in order to gain control over porn, so to use it in moderation. But as we have seen before, this is impossible. Plus if the goal of the reboot is to use porn, porn is still in the horizon. This becomes a contradiction to the present streak and will make it much harder to endure. On the other side all ex-addicts firmly agree that no one ever wants to go back to porn cause life now is too good to be true, too good to go back to hell.

20 - 90 days usually is the standard time to recover from porn addiction, sometimes it may take long. Counting the days can boost your confidence but it also has down effects. Counting may create the sense that only when “that” specific day is reached everything will be fine, your life will be perfect. so you focus on the time and not the process (which is your own life). This can make a streak harder to endure by putting extra pressure to reach “that” day and not reset the counter meanwhile. To avoid this trap make a register of your entire nofap journey, relapses included. So after a relapse if resetting the counter its a big demotivation for you, don´t reset. Just register the relapse, learn from it, and keep you personal counter going. That will help put your growth in perspective. In the end it´s not going to be a number that will dictate when you´re free, it´s your own body/mind.

21 – the reboot implies 100% commitment. If you don´t take it serious neither will be the results. If you take it serious, like if your life depends on it, the change is at your hand. You´ll become a new person: happy, faster, stronger, smarter, confident, social, peaceful. You´ll become a high successful person and there will be pretty much nothing you can´t accomplish because after conquering your own demon you can conquer anything.

i wish you the best luck, strengh and focus my brother. believe in yourself, you can do it.[/QUOT
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Black Duke · Apr 14, 2019

RiseToGreatness said: ↑

Welcome my friend, 14 days is quite good. lot´s of newcomers don´t reach double digits, so your streak for a start is pretty good

stay with us, sharing not only motivates you but also motivate others. here´s some pointers to a safe and strong reboot.

1 - know your enemy. read this book "wack: addicted to internet porn" from noah church, it´s free on his website.

2 - recognize beyond any doubt that your an addict. not someone who has a bad habit. on "wack" there´s a test to see how deep is the addiction and how much is damaging you.

3 - once you accept the truth, recognize that you can´t control PMO usage. don´t waste precious time of your life trying to fit porn in your life, you can´t control this thing. “Oh… maybe on these days, or only on that days….” Forget it. See for yourself, if you could control this you wouldn´t be an addict in the first place. the only way to break free from the addiction is to abstain from all sexual indulgence till a point you have no desire to PMO. 90 days usually is the standard time, sometimes it may take long.

4 - motivate yourself daily to do the reboot. PMO destroys a lot of areas in life, but what is that one thing that really pisses you off? Why do you really need to overcome the addiction? What´s your central issue? find it. That´s your main motivation. Motivate several times especially in the first weeks, cause the urges and porn thoughts will be very alive and kicking. motivation can come from a text, a video, a music, whatever, anything that boosts you do keep doing the reboot. Also motivate yourself on the end of any PMO free day with the efforts that you made. mark your victories. write sentences like:
“Today i was about to peak but i did something else”
“Today i had a strong urge but i didn´t touch myself”
“Today i treated woman with kindness and respect and not like a pervert” …

5 – you can´t do this alone. Studies show that is very rare to someone to overcome an addiction alone, almost impossible. That´s because the very feeding ground of addictions is isolation. So the treatment goes in the opposite direction. You need partners, groups, therapy, forums, whatever, do as you prefer, but stay in touch.

6 - create physical barriers against PMO cause willpower alone will not do. this means install porn blockers and usage of electronic devices with screens facing exposure. in extreme cases forbide yourself from being home alone with electronic devices.

7 - delete any sexual/erotic material that you have. if you keep something with you that means you´re keeping the flame alive.

8 - withdrawal is hard, sometimes harder than the addiction. but after some days/weeks the withdrawal ends, the addiction never ends. Prepare yourself for fatigue, irritation, deep sadness, insomnia, brain fog, headaches, etc... but don´t worry, after a while energy will start to rise and you´ll feel amazing . it´s worth all the efforts. to minimize withdrawal always stay well fed, hidratated, an build a good sleep hygiene. sleeping pills and antidepressives can also help.

9 – Avoid alcohol and sugar consumption. These substances drain energy and promote lethargy and depression. Never get drunk. Excessive alcohol prevents your brain for rewiring, leads to (extra) fatigue, irritation and brain fog. it will also deplete your willpower making you more likely to relapse. Also stay away from screens, wether TV, PC, mobile, whatever.... screens cultivate a passive attitude. it robs awareness and creates dullness, tiredness and sadness. if you want to interact with screens that´s fine but only for a specific reason. when that reason is over, the viewing must be over also.

10 – practice meditation daily or any kind of relaxation technique. This is very important to calm the body against urges and help cope with withdrawal symptoms.

11 – Negative feelings are common triggers to PMO. If you feel bored follow the trail of inspiration, ask yourself "what do i really wanna do right now?" and act out on the answer. Even if at first you only feel a small pull, do it anyway. After a while energy will increase so as the mood and you´ll be inspired to do other things. If you feel sad try to talk with someone about that, and do something pleasant. Stronger emotions like anger or hurt i recommend meditation. A good exercise is the 3 minute breathing space meditation, it´s specifically designed to cope with hard moments.

12 - in the reboot you´ll have flatline periods (total absence of sexual desire) and periods of strong sexual urges. to deal with urges my recommendation is to let them be, just observe them, don´t engage in them. keep doing whatever you´re doing. the urge may be very strong, but it will pass, it will pass totally. in extreme cases, click the panic button on nofap, get out of the house or take a cold shower.

13 - do physical exercise regularly. that will boost your mood and release sexual energy in a positive way.

14 - write a goodbye letter to porn. be brutally honest. an addiction is also a relationship so cry your heart out, say all the things you want to say, and say goodbye.

15 – stay dynamic and active. this is the step i found more important (sideways with the daily motivation). why? because you´re not only abstaining from porn/masturbation, you have to replace those behaviours for others. or else porn will return, no matter how much time as gone by. So fill the free time, work on your passions, live your dreams, one day at a time. Don´t give importance to what day you´re in, the change is forever so don´t care about the 90 days. Impulsivess is an old friend of the addiction.

16 - the addicted mind will not break easily. it´s likely that you´re gonna relapse, relapse a lot. the key is too keep going, never give up. if you don´t give up you will make it. Garanteed. This aplies with everything in life. You just have to want it, badly. If you want it you´ll get it, you will find a way. Garanteed. All the excuses that we put up “oh i´m not strong enough”, “not smart enough” “not good looking” “not rich enough”, “oh, i´m super addicted” “oh, i´m just unlucky” bla bla it´s all ideas, beliefs that are not tested, excuses to justify failure and make us feel pity for yourselfs while time is passing by. Plain and simple, if your not getting what you want, it´s not because of circunstances, it´s due to lack of determination. Perseverance is the game changer. So in each relapse try to know something about yourself, how your mind works, what are the triggers. knowledge is power. If you relapse try not to binge (relapse multiple times), the bigger the binging the harder will the withdrawal.

17 - avoid any kind of sexual stimulation. Anything that we consciously engage with a lustful purpose: engage in viewing, engage in touching... will make dopamine being release on the already unbalanced brain. stimulation will increase urges and deplete the motivation for other things (as PMO is still the main drive). So don´t believe your mind if it tells you to peak, it never wants just that. after that, the addiction will kick in strongly and start pounding until it breaks you. The same goes for edging. So it´s better to not even start. The ideal is to make a 180º shift on reality. Engage in totally different activities through the day. luckly there´s a million to do things that have nothing to do with sex. if you have a partner and want to have normal intercourse try to abstain at least on the first weeks to give the brain a rest. If you do sex but thinking on porn that means you´re using your partner as an object. That´s a relapse.

18 - you can never go back to porn. this probably is the harshest truth you can hear (it was mine, and it is for many people) but it´s the truth nevertheless. Why? 3 major reasons.

- you´ll be an ex-addicted, always. that means you will never have a normal relation with porn, your soft spot is porn. if you engage in PMO again, sooner or later you´ll become an addict, again.
- PMO happens in isolation, there´s no social PMO, which means that not only your likely to associate exciting feelings to PMO behaviour, but also negative feelings, which means that you´ll associate PMO with pretty much everything that happens to you. In fact, this is one of the core mechanisms for an addiction to surface.
- in high speed internet, there´s an infinite suply of sexual material, new sexual material. dopamine is released not only by viewing and fapping but also by searching novely. once you give your brain a taste of the "stuff" it will crave for more. always more.

19 - destroying any hope of going back to PMO will make the reboot stronger and more determinated. This is because some fapstronauts secretly do the reboot in order to gain control over porn, so to use it in moderation. But as we have seen before, this is impossible. Plus if the goal of the reboot is to use porn, porn is still in the horizon. This becomes a contradiction to the present streak and will make it much harder to endure. On the other side all ex-addicts firmly agree that no one ever wants to go back to porn cause life now is too good to be true, too good to go back to hell.

20 - 90 days usually is the standard time to recover from porn addiction, sometimes it may take long. Counting the days can boost your confidence but it also has down effects. Counting may create the sense that only when “that” specific day is reached everything will be fine, your life will be perfect. so you focus on the time and not the process (which is your own life). This can make a streak harder to endure by putting extra pressure to reach “that” day and not reset the counter meanwhile. To avoid this trap make a register of your entire nofap journey, relapses included. So after a relapse if resetting the counter its a big demotivation for you, don´t reset. Just register the relapse, learn from it, and keep you personal counter going. That will help put your growth in perspective. In the end it´s not going to be a number that will dictate when you´re free, it´s your own body/mind.

21 – the reboot implies 100% commitment. If you don´t take it serious neither will be the results. If you take it serious, like if your life depends on it, the change is at your hand. You´ll become a new person: happy, faster, stronger, smarter, confident, social, peaceful. You´ll become a high successful person and there will be pretty much nothing you can´t accomplish because after conquering your own demon you can conquer anything.

i wish you the best luck, strengh and focus my brother. believe in yourself, you can do it.
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Thanks bro. Im grateful for the wonderful tips. I'm committed to bring about change in my life

AlternativeFalcon01 · Apr 14, 2019

50/90
I had a really good day. Learned, been in church, and my mood was really good, and had no urges.

freezemar · Apr 14, 2019

Day 18/90

Fredi-the · Apr 14, 2019

Day 10 of no PM
Day 79 of no alcohol or caffeine
Day 47 of weight training
- feeling great, fully alive without any temptations today
- helps I started the day off right by making love to my wife ... by my initiation

Titu · Apr 14, 2019

Fresh start. This time for the last time.

benj · Apr 14, 2019

32/90
At ease.

DetroitRok · Apr 14, 2019

Day 33 (didn’t post on 32)

I’ve been having some interesting feelings in my groin area, not exactly like urges. More like a feeling of fullness or potential energy. I know that sounds weird. But it’s a physical sensation that I can’t describe better than that. I guess it could just be a buildup of semen or buildup of sex drive. I guess it’s a good thing.

Anyway, carry on guys. This fight is worth the pain and effort.

jjjlll · Apr 14, 2019

Day 40:
Amazing! Last time my record is 46 days.
I know this time I will get through all the tough time and achieve 90 days!

DetroitRok · Apr 14, 2019

jjjlll said: ↑

Day 40:
Amazing! Last time my record is 46 days.
I know this time I will get through all the tough time and achieve 90 days!
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Congrats on 40! Keep it up!

My Best self · Apr 14, 2019

Day 6

Lawliet129 · Apr 14, 2019

Lawliet129 said: ↑

22/90
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23/90 my boner wakes me up every morning...its like he have his own life, i imagine him saying "get up you lazy ass!" XD

Timesarechanging · Apr 14, 2019

28 days getting so close to 30 i can almost taste it

Cody Dinh · Apr 14, 2019

I'm on 56/90 days. How's everything going you guys? I hope all of you guys are doing awesome. Today is Monday, New day New life. Have a good day

Rebooter693 · Apr 14, 2019

day 1 bois. Didn't get any urges but thats what usually happens - hope I can make it to 90!

DannyDudicle · Apr 14, 2019

Day 7/90, week one down

Srisurya · Apr 14, 2019

Day 0/90 started. Yesterday relapse. Not going to give up.

tbandman · Apr 15, 2019

Update:

Day 25

Hang in there guys!

It can be defeated · Apr 15, 2019

LaoTsu said: ↑

It's normal my friend. Don't give up. You need to accept the urges, respect them, allow yourself the feel what is causing the urge. Could it be boredom? Could it be frustration? Generally some negative feeling fuels them. Just face it. Don't run away from it by fapping. You got it man. You are strong. One day at a time. Start over and don't worry about it.
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Thanks. I will

Woahhhh · Apr 15, 2019

7/90 , it’s been a tough day

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