Relapsed, full on PMO, after 222 days of NoFap awesomeness. Lust is tricky, and insomnia is a b*tch (2:30 am right now)... I need to do some praying and changing so I don't undo all my progress like before (about a year ago I went 150 days before relapsing). If God instills in us the desire to procreate, why is lust so bad? This was never explained to me. I don't know anymore. I messed up. I can't believe I just did that. God, I really do want a virtuous wife and eventually kids, but how? I'm so sorry. I have no idea what I'm doing. I don't even know if this post belongs in this category.
222 days is an amazing streak! How many attempts did it take you to get there? My advice to you would be the same as to someone who stumbled at 3, 14 or 60 days… what triggered your relapse? What would you do differently under the same circumstances next time? Now, get up, dust yourself down, congratulate yourself on an amazing 222 days, and do day one of your next streak. Why not make that 223 (+) days? The virtuous wife and kids will come, I'm sure, until then, enjoy your single life
Don't be hard on yourself, I'd consider 222 days as an accomplishment! I don't know what your goals are with NoFap, but never ever push yourself hard to the verge of depressing yourself. I don't know about God's plans 'cause I'm atheist but lust is just the raw animal emotion, the true emotion we all aspire for is love. People tend to mix up love and lust many times. As decent humans, it is our job to keep wild emotions under check and improve on our weaknesses.
There is an approximate correlation between what has just happened to you and my own experience. I had a previous run of 124 days, PMO'd once and then had one lasting 211 days (which ended a couple of weeks ago). All we can do is get up and keep going.
I would like to know what happened if you wish to share. What can we do to try and avoid this? Also, very sorry this happened bro. I know it probably is double hard if you are single! I would not be as strong as you if I was single.
Sorry about your relapse, bro. Do you feel that you had surrendered 100%? I'm just curious. Not lecturing. I had to surrender. I was living with a very traumatic past. And the only way I could be free was to give this up. Not only did I know this, but I felt it somehow. Surrendering is powerful. It's a leap of faith. Your relapse has helped me to see the reality of this. This could've been me. Pm me if I can help.
@chinchilla808, don't be too hard on yourself. You went almost a year clean. I bet you've learnt a lot from that experience, and relapsing does not send you back to square one. You have lived a fuller life for sure in that time, and you still have Amazing things awaiting for you in your path. Stay strong, stay clean, stay happy! Best of luck in your journey my friend!
Seems to be different for everyone. Probably most common is no P or M leading to O. Sex is usually pursued I would say.
Mine is NO Porn, NO Masturbation, NO Edging These are red lines, and would mean I reset my counter. I DO have sex to O with my wife, it's not all that regular, but I won't stop doing that
You are definitely version 1.1 now. So get set and go.remember it's all in mind.stay strong,all the best