Hi everyone, Its not the end of day 2 and I am struggling, the problem is that I have time off work, finished early today, starting late tomorrow, bored to death, cannot find anything to do, hoping for better weather so that I can go cycling. Free time and I dont agree well. I am trying my hardest not to watch porn, I hope I dont relapse, feeling very week and vulnerable. Help help
keep going, you can do it, it is hard, I am also going through a very hard time, I am on day two. its really hard. lets "do this together!!
I actually feel a little stronger now that I admitted my weakness and vulnerability. Lets buck up and keep pushing forwards. Now im fantasizing about cycling and the fresh air after the rain
that's awesome! I am thinking about relaxing at a coffee shop, being in reality. and just reading a good book. yep, I will not fail today, I will NOT reset the counter.
Finding new activities can definitely be a challenge. Try something new. Watch a movie you wouldn't normally. Read a book you normally wouldn't. Draw (even if you can't), write. I really get stuck in my habits and am trying to do new things lately. Good luck!
If weather is not good you can also try some kind of indoor workout. Do some isometrics, it fits perfect with cycling. Or you can start with gamified apps like runtastic push-ups or sit-ups (I used those for some time and really liked them). Not only you'll be distracted for a while but will also feel the burst exercise gives us after completion.
Thanks everyone, went for a cycle then a cold shower, hopefully will be distracted by dinner, telly and escape to bed. Feeling stronger by all the support. Cheers
Addiction is as much of stopping old habits as it is creating new habits. Sometimes we struggle shacking off the old when we lack the new to replace it. I personally find this difficult because my brain has been trained to only enjoy the old, so nothing new sounds as existing. It's tough to choke off the old & wait for my brain to find new things to enjoy.
Okay, this is exactly the opposite of what works actually. If you try really hard not to think about something it means that you actually are focusing all your energy on PMO related thoughts. The best way to go about it would be to recognize the thoughts without letting them consume you. Focus your energy on something else. This is what Socrates would have said: Focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.
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I think rebooting or cessation of PMO behaviors leads to recovery. First we need to stop. Only then can we expect to recover from this addiction.
What you are experiencing is natural for an addict. Don't worry or be alarmed by it. Accept it and resolve to overcome it. That's the only way to beat it! lol Sooner or later, every addict will have to face their demons. Look into the face of your demons and laugh, cry, shout, or close your eyes and ignore it. Whatever you do, don't surrender to it. Don't give up fighting for yourself. You are better and stronger than it. That's why it's clawing at you now. You didn't go looking for it. It (the addiction) came looking for you. It needs you, but you don't need it! Stay strong
Thanks everyone for your help, managed to escape from it all, went for a bike ride, then home for dinner tried to play with the playstation but got bored, went out for a drive, spoke to sister on thd phone and went straight to bed.