Okay, so I'm seeing a new gal for about a week now. My last true relapse was on Tuesday. I was hoping to see her today, but our plans fell through. The question I have is, is it okay for me to do what I did today? I felt like I needed the release or I was going to go crazy. I laid in bed and brought myself completely to orgasm, no touching at all, thinking only about her. Is that okay to do since I was thinking about her and not pixels on a screen, and I didn't touch myself, or is it still damaging?
I mean id say its still a relapse but it seems a little weird to me that after a week you're already obsessing over her also How the fuck do you make yourself cum without touching yourself
Maybe I'm using her as a replacement for the porn. It's very difficult to do the first time, but I've done it numerous times since then. At least it's not the death grip...
Oh it's quite possible. It's something I used to do with porn. Only the third time I've been able to do it with just thoughts, I consider that a win somehow.
I can't get off thinking about a girl, but anyways it's an interesting scenario. You O'd thinking about a girl. You didn't O to porn or anything, but were your thoughts stimulated by pornographic thoughts? That could play a factor in if you have to reset or not. I don't know honestly.
Well, though, what qualifies as a pornographic thought? It was 100% thinking about having sex with her specifically. The bigger problem I guess is that I did end up resetting my counter later due to an actual relapse, so I'm thinking that maybe this itself wasn't necessarily bad, but it opened the door to an actual relapse.
Pornographic thoughts such as thinking back to porn scenes or something to stimulate your thoughts. That's what I'm thinking. But if it was 100% about her then I honestly don't think it's enough to reset your counter.