Can anyone help me what i should do when a sudden porn flashback hit me like a storm. My brain has memorized each and every part of a porn video and not able to delete it from my brain. What should i do ? Plz help.
Don't act on pretty much just observe it and be like okay I had that thought now time to move on with my day if that does not help heavy weights or a good cardio session tends to get me through it
As my lectures are extremly boring and i have to remain 8 hrs on my college, i usually get that porn flashbacks during that on going class and i get a boner after that. Sometimes girls sit next to me so u can understand that embarrassment. After that may be during a break or after coming home, i may immediatly go to that flashback porn site and relapse. This actually happened on my last relapse, i came home from clg and due to that tiredness and all, i watched that previously watched porn and relapsed. This relapse due to flashbacks happen are the cause of my relapse most of the time.
That porn scene was going on my mind the whole way during i was coming back to home, i want to forget all that porn which i viewed till now. I even remember each and every porn perfectly which i viewed 3 years ago
So basically, you masturbate when you arrive home. So what you are gonna do is to get rid of flashbacks and every time you buy a new one, throw it away. And as i told you search "Chucky kill scenes" immediately on youtube. This will help you so much that you won't even think about porn after it, maybe you may think about porn after it. But that would take a long time, another thing is to read famous quotes about self-control deeply not just reading, try to feel those quotes. And try to remind yourself that watching porn is NOT worth it.
There is no easy answer other than to say tough it out. Everybody has to deal with intense flashbacks and urges. These flashbacks are nothing more than your dopamine-starved brain begging for another fix. You don't even want the porn; your brain just wants its drug.
My advice would be to describe in writing that memory or video flashback. Write as much as you can in detail and describe exactly what is happening in that video flashback. This may sound counterproductive at first, like you are reinforcing that memory that could put you in a vulnerable position to relapse. However, a relapse generally occurs when fantasizing takes control over you. The goal here is to do the oppositie. By writing it out, you are intentionally taking control of that flashback. This is a way to have control of that memory and not let the memory control you. Also, by writing it out, the memory loses its mystery. After you are done writing out that memory, read it over a few times. See that it is just a memory. Then, throw it out in the trash, burn it, or flush it down the toilet. Done. That flashback will lose its power over you.
It will eventually go away. Thoughts and desires and memories aren't the problem for most of us. Acting on those thoughts and desires is. You can't fight the memories, you can just distract yourself with something else. Eventually the memories will get weaker.