I think i've read it somewhere here, I think it also has a name. It's something about when a certain period of time passes the urges become stronger because of the brain rewiring... Can you please tell me everything you know??
Bump^ I'd like to know the answer to this as well. Actually I believe it's dopamine receptors being re-sensitized to normal levels due to the absence of sensory overload due to the consumption of multiple and various pornography niches. However I'd like to hear more opinions on this Too Long, Didn't Read : When your dopamine receptors strengthen you find pleasure in simpler things.
The urges hit me like a freight train last night after 2 weeks of relative plain sailing. I relapsed. I'm still amazed by the strength of the urges. Like nothing I can remember.
I don't have any sexual urge and I'm at day 13. Never had any since I started NoFap. I have the urge to eat when I'm hungry, to drink when I'm thirsty but to watch some actors having sex on a video?.. Nah. I rather pass my time study, listen to music or work out.
Testosterone...I think every 7 days of abstaining your body produces more of it. Which is giving you those urges
W Well, congratulations then, but that's not what I'm asking in this thread. We're here asking for help.
I think it's simply a matter of having PMO'd regularly for so many years, followed by abstention for a period of time, and suddenly the body craves it like never before if your mind even goes to PMO thoughts briefly. Until the brain reaches a normal baseline level for dopamine (14 days isn't enough to do that yet), we're like the proverbial crack addict diving for his pipe any time the thought arises. It takes a lot of mental discipline and I'm looking forward to someday breaking the back of this thing.
What's amazing to me is the so-called 'flat-lining' (Either that means no urges at all, or at least non-intrusive) followed by an incredible revenge of the urges. You can convince yourself in periods of calm that it's really easy, that you could go on for 100 days. And then all of a sudden you are completely helpless. I'm trying to understand how my body reacts and behaves. The more we understand, the more we can anticipate and control.
Yes, I don't quite understand the flatlining concept, since I see people discussing it on here but I've never actually had a period where I got worried things wouldn't work if I needed them. I can relate to what you say about having no PMO thoughts for awhile and then suddenly they arrive on the scene with an armoured brigade to back them up. I'd love to have a situation where I "flatline" for at least a month. Where I don't give a damn about anything below the belt and just carry on with my life.
Handling the surge - that's what I need to figure out. Channelling it properly, and not being overwhelmed. Makes me wonder just what I've been suppressing all these years with a daily habit.
You're going through withdrawal. At first it is physical, as mentioned above. Then it gets emotional (this is the most difficult to go through). Masturbation is also a coping method to life's pains, pushing negative emotions down deeper and deeper into the abyss of the mind and body. But once you stop pushing them down , they start pushing upwards. Expect to be very emotionally unstable for at least the first 90 days. And feel free to cry, it releases that inner tension built up over the years
I agree with you, only that I differ in something: I think healthy masturbation from time to time is normal, but compulsion (the vice) is what causes everything you said. And this is my first reboot ever from a lifelong addiction so well... honey, you got a big storm comin'
I have come to realise that some ppl arent addicted to masturbation, and some are. Those that aren't can masturbate in a "healthy" way. Those that are, can't. Good luck man!
Mmm I don't agree again. When you fix most of your emotional problems and restore your brain's chemical levels after a reboot then it becomes easier to control.
These are two very different experiences. I'm familiar to both of them. For me, it depends on the overall stress level during that time. PMO is a reaction to stress. It is an escape attempt to flee from real life, from taking responsibility and decisions.