Hi. My name is Arian. I'm 18. I started PMOing at 12 and was so horny minded before that. I remember being so curious about woman's sex organ then. There's about a year that i am strugling to quit and today i'm on day 4. (My best record is 31) I have just one BIG problem that would be glad to know your opinions about. And here it is: as far as i remeber maybe from 9 or 10 i've been so thinking about female's sex organ and the difference. But as my parents were religious and i felt some kind of virginity through my eyes i never tried to search for a vagina pic on web till i got 16(I just pmoed to soft pics back then)& this curiosity was blowing my mind that i would always see people (with both sex but i'm straight)as sex organs and it had remained till now. It's like my eyes are glued to peoples' mid way. And now it's the BIGGGGGEEEEESSSSTTTTT problem in my life specially when it comes to the same sex that they might even think i'm gay or wanna suck their dick BUT I DON'T. I just don't know what's wrong with me; vouyerism, HOCD, some kind of OCD i don't now. I even thaught about suicide once. Please help me if u know any treatment. And excuse my bad English bcz it's not my mother's tongue.
I have your cure - no more porn, whatsoever!! Or masturbation. Edging counts as masturbation and p-subs count as porn. You have to stay away from them completely...you have been warned! 8)
Thank u so much bro. I'll surely follow ur suggestion. just wanted to ask how long do u think it gets to be cured?
It's normal to think about sex when you're young. However, porn itself is not healthy for anyone; if you want to reduce the anxiety you are having, then try to abstain from PMO and see how it affects you. Good luck!
Everyone's different...I think for me - 20y/o having been PMO'ing since 15 - it will take about 9 - 18 months for a full reboot (I have chronic PIED!) But I could be very, very wrong...maybe it will be much shorter than that. In any event, patience - and keeping yourself busy via a job, studying, working out, a new hobby, etc. - is CRITICAL to one's success! Good luck!
Stop using anything that might get u turned on! This trick has always been beneficial to me. I remember for 3 weeks i had forbidden myself to internet. Because for ex. When im using instagram there's always pics of hot women in the explore tab! Those usually turned me on. Im not a successful person in this journey im just tellin my experiments! Keep it right up dude as we all do.
Yeah, religion fucks people up. I don't think you can get rid of this problem by stopping to watch porn. That doesn't mean you shouldn't. I think this is just a way for you to, in a way, preserve a virgin mindset. Like there is something you can still discover on a real woman that you haven't seen on a porn video before. I don't think there is a huge problem right now, as long as this won't carry on when you have real sex. Then you should really be doing something about it. So don't worry and stop watching porn.
Learn that there is nothing shameful in your sexuality. I don't know your views on sexuality or how religious you are, but learn to accept and not to repress it. With not repressing, I mean not feeling shameful of sexual thoughts as long as they're not influenced by porn. If you want to fap, do it. No shame in it. Just don't use anything artificial to stimulate you. That's the core of the problem, not mastrubation.