I don't entirely know why, but I thought I would not really struggle with this change. I've made other changes in my life and I felt if I just make up my mind, I could easily make changes in my life. Giving up porn and masturbation has been much more difficult than I imagined. I have a long time girlfriend who refuses to give me a break from sexual contact so I can reboot. I don't really feel a draw to porn or masturbation, what I do feel is mind fog, dizziness, which leads to bad decisions. I'm having difficulty thinking. I don't know what to do. I need help. I want to get better.
A lot of people find this a lot harder to fix than they thought. That's because this isn't a bad habit, like spending too much time on video games or social media. This is a full blown addiction, with a behavioral and neurotransmitter component. Most important, does your girlfriend know what you are trying to do and why?
I don't know how necessary it is to give up sex and orgasm with your s/o to break porn and masturbation. Each person is different, of course.
Like Meshuga said, this is WAY more difficult than anyone thinks at first. Have you seen all the links and resources already? I can re-post them or pm you. There has been a lot of good things written, videos, even Terry Crews did a set of YouTube videos that are good to watch. You need to learn about the addiction process, that will help.
Sounds like: You feel the obligation to please your girlfriend, but at the same time you don't want it. You have another goal in mind, but you cannot see it clearly enough, and therefore, you cannot reach it. Can that be the case ?
I don't really understand how and why not having sex with your partner can help recover from porn or masturbation addiction... Sounds counter-intuitive.
Well for me, I am still having sexual relations with my significant other. I am having a difficult time changing, are the two related? I am too new to know for sure.
