The Cold Hard Truth About NoFap

So even If I'm I'm flunking Nofap I shouldn't do a counter (I'm stuck in a 3 day loop)? So you're saying I should ask myself how I'm progressing over time?

 

I agree with your point that its a beginning. But a beginning is important. Usually this stuff has roots in shame and often a dysfunctional childhood. That stuff beds to come out and it takes time

 

I disagree. The days do matter. I see where your coming from though and in the overall scheme of things your making a point that will only connect with people who have gone a month or more. When you are beginning and feeling pretty bad about your position and the constancy of your behavior, the days as they accumulate mean a lot. But it can begin to be the end all of your recovery, and not the substance of your recovery, which is misguided. If your not evolving away from your issue then your just standing still. The superpowers part is true, since they are qualities you would already have had you been cultivating them instead of your addiction. I don't know about hair growth, that smells like bullshit to me but I don't have thinning hair. Some people are different so who knows?

 

i agree that days don't matter. why? because every one has different problem, different lifstyle, no one has the same sensitivity about emotions, people in our life have different impact on us... so days can not be reality. i think the only thing that counts is how you feel. if you did 50 days and you feel like you did on day 1 then you are still fcuked. if you feel great after 20 days its great. maybe someone will not feel the same after 100 days. its the journey that makes ou rich with experiences not the destination

 

I joined NoFap cause I needed someone to talk to about my PMO. For me its all about 90 days and after. Super powers or not...im sick n tired of PMO. I need guys to talk to when I reaaaally wanna M wish that NoFap had live chat support or maybe video chat...

 

I agree with the author of this thread.
I believe we all doing nofap cause we came to a point in life were we felt a lack of happiness and joy in life. If you're having a counter you're looking back and you might even gloating yourself about how far you have come, instead of being in the now, which is the biggest benefit nofap creates. You quite your mind, and simply become present.
You should'nt even consider yourself being on a journey or think about this like a streak your doing. Why do you even think with a mindset of nofap? You wanted it gone, so why are you thinking about it?
This is the biggest threat for you to success in life. If your having that kind of mindset it will eventually go NoFap > I don't wanna watch porn > Porn and now it is in your mind.. And if you're not aware here and stop yourself thinking about it.. It will eventually become a feeling, a desire for masturbation.

 

there is a mobile app counter. you chose the day you stopped PMO and it shows ou day and hours since last PMO. it can help you lso to motivate you. today is my day 18. it was so fast. don't give up guys. almost 20 days in my first try. it's all in your head. we have to go through hell to come in the heaven. there will be no other way i guess

 

Yes, I agree with The King of Silence, the 90 days isn't a fixed thing but don't call it a bullshit lie.

Remember this is a life change, you are supposed to work on bettering yourself to get over the addiction. This is true with any kind of addiction. You got hooked on porn because of other problems in your life which range from mommy issues to stress and depression. When you work on these, the porn addiction will fade away.

All said, counting days in the beginning might be helpful to some psychologically. The 30, 60, 90 or whichever days you pick as your goal means nothing if at the end you are still not ready to stop counting.

The day you stop counting days is the beginning of true enlightenment!

So for now, it feels good to see my 32 day streak but I know when I reach 90 the real test will begin.

 

This post really put me down man. As stated before the 90 days is merely a Launchpad for your new life. Don't stall, and don't distract yourself with numbers. Start living and you'll notice that the root of the problem extends beyond pixelated girls on a screen.

 

I have to agree with this post, even though the best way to start is probably setting up goals. After doing this a couple of times you should usually feel sick about relapsing and its depressing "sidekicks". I totally agree setting up goals is useless in General, but it leads to a better understanding of the actual problem!

 

It really does depend on the person in question too. PMO is the symptom and stopping can help the problems like social anxiety through some of the "Super Powers."

But social anxiety has other causes too. I'm always not social when i relapse for instance.

I feel O.P is correct and i agree, but it's definitely not meaningless. By any means.