A few days back I relapsed again from a streak of 43 days of abstinence. I had a thought why not try meditation? I had very little experience with meditation when one of my school teachers thought mindfulness meditation 25 years back. I tried to sit in a calm room with doors closed. I sat in a cot without back support because I feel it difficult to sit on the floor, kept my both hands together on my pelvis in a mudhra and closed my eyes. I was listening to all the sounds around me. Then I had the idea why not think about porn? Then I thought about various porn videos and had the urge to open my eyes and mastrubate, but I could feel that I can channelise the sexual energy through all the weaker parts of my body, especially I had a intense feeling in the middle of my forehead. Then now I practice this even when awake, now whenever I have sexual feelings I feel like I could chanelise the energy through different parts of my body especially through my third eye(centre of forehead). Now I practice meditation daily and pray everyday. I hope can be celebate with this practice.
It's a good start, not a "failure." Just like when you catch yourself being lost in thoughts during meditation, don't beat yourself up. Notice what happened, and, without judgment, resume your work where you left off.
Hm... I don't think so no. "Channelize the energy through the third eyes". That sound really hippy to me.
It sounds really hippy because of his choice of words and to the extent you haven't experienced what he described. Either you are in the Know, or you aren't. I hope you'll experience it as well. There really isn't anything hippy about it.
I not sure I understand what you're on about. Are you saying you think about porn every time you meditate?
Interesting, I like meditating but haven't found it helps me much outside the minutes that I'm meditating. I still try to meditate daily, as I hope it's helping me focus better and it reduces stress. Your technique is interesting because you are using meditation as a distraction from the urges. You are redirecting the urge. Using meditation as a distractor is a new approach for most of us. I've been doing things like push-ups, taking a walk, or simply removing myself from the situation by walking away from the computer or getting out of bed when I'm horny when I first wake up. Thanks for the suggestion, I think I'll try meditation the next time I have an urge and see if I can channel it out my "third eye." Peace, Nomo
I found that in my case every slip reset my flatline and PAWS symptoms. Every slip for me was a painful failure and a big setback. I found it very unhelpful when others would try and downplay the significance of my slips. It sounds like your addiction and mine are very different. To you a slip is not a big deal. For me it sets me way back and causes immeasurable tangible pain.
We all relapse, the thing is to get up and start again. You should ask why you relapsed. Something was bothering you: stress, work, boredom, etc. Now try to fix the thing that caused you to relax. If meditation wasn't enough to stop you from relapsing, then next time try something besides meditation like push-ups, a walk, etc. Don't sweat the relapse, but try to fix what caused the relapse. Good luck, Nomo
I hear you. I have to use very strict boundaries around social media and internet use. You don't have to slip again. You can recover
I deleted all social media except whats app and telegram. I have only three private groups in telegram. Was spending too much time playing chess online too, deleted that account too. Now feeling better
Good boundaries do not guarantee abstinence but without good boundaries abstinence is almost impossible