i found out the real reason why we fap in general and it's one and single one for ALL the cases internalized shame the cause of the shame can vary but its always the same feeling: shame sadness/depression takes away the need to do sex or anything. It turns u off anger makes u wanna destroy or strike out but shame makes u wanna hide and thats what we do when we fap... we hide but we dont hide bc we are doing it. We do it bc we hide. And then we perpetuate the cycle by feeling shame of fapping now... why u hide? and its interesting: the source of shame can be completely constructed by society without any reason for example the nerd stereotype, and hollywood making fun of it which means that not always the source of the shame is a bad thing Shame is only the fear of being rejected. It's a social emotion designed to turn u in a carbon copy of the other members of the society. And becoming a average member of society is the worst thing u can do to urself, or the worst thing they can do to u society will try to pull u down to mediocrity if u have a gift. They will try to shame u. If the shame doesnt work, they will tell u that u cant do or achieve ur goals. They will try to convince you that ur "not enough" And when u dont listen to it, they throw u the big weapons: alcohol, drugs and porn the first ones target ur heart, ur enthusiasm, ur curiousity, ur self esteem The second ones target ur mind the old ones used to say "no one can take away what u have in ur mind" but that's not entirely true... the last ones try to achieve exactly that... Alcohol, drugs and porn can turn any genius into crap and even if that genius still have that geniality in their head, the addiction will keep that ability in hybernation it's goal is to create an artificial mental health problem: dependance, depression, reduced intellectual abilities why is that? Because if you have a mental health difficulty you are more likely to end up poor. If you have a mental health difficulty you are more likely to end up dead sooner. If you have a mental health difficulty you are more likely to have poor physical health. If you have a mental health difficulty you are more likely to end up estranged from family, to never taste love, to never find a comfortable home. The years spent unwell takes money from your pocket and years from your future. These are the result of social organisation, not of individual illness. Porn's target is ur intelligence Why u think society is trying to get rid of men? Bc men are the ones that can figure this out. Women are too dependant of society by nature to even consider about this: SOCIETY IS THE ENEMY Society only serves the ones on top... and the ones below are servants Thats why there are so many sociopaths competing for the "throne" and they dont care who they kill bc they know that if u follow society rules, ur on top or ur a servant
We fap compulsively because we are identified with the body and the thoughts/feelings held in the body. With the memories of past traumas etc. This identification causes us pain. The more strongly we are identified with the past memories the more pain we experience, hence the stronger the desire to escape the pain and experience sensations of bliss, of ecstasy. We’ve chosen pmo as our avenue to bliss. As we are finding out, this “bliss” is temporary and causes us and others more pain after acting out. The “enemy” is within, not “out there.”
Well for me I fapped because I was battling depression and originally countered it with cocaine and alcohol. But when I laid in bed in the dark for days fapping n porn became a temporary relief. That's why I did it like 20 times a day.
I think the real reason why we have such huge sexual desires is that our purpose is to generate seed in order to bring children to the world
This is the only valid response in this whole thread. It doesn't matter whether you want children, we are evolutionary programmed to want to satisfy our sexual urge. It is how us humans have survived for thousands of years. However, technology has made porn so accessible to us that we can constantly and easily satisfy our sexual pleasures through this medium. Too much of a good thing is always a bad thing.
In your opinion this is the only “valid response” on this thread. Why not challenge yourself and try to find out if there is more to the sexual urge than just procreation/pleasure?