I’ve been struggling with this honestly for maybe 4 years and it really took a toll on my confidence to talk to people and have conversations. I have been recovering these past few months but sometimes I’ll have these debates in my head to watch or not watch. I just read up on some things to do instead of porno and I have one idea that I’ll try out but I wanna hear some other ideas. Thanks!
One of the reasons that I hear people go to P is because of boredom and it is usually recommended to fill that boredom with a hobby or something else. Personally, I have three different things in mind to start picking up (or picking up again): amateur radio, software development challenges, and fun electronic engineering (I have a project in mind, complete with schematics and all).
This is kinda ridiculous. If it was simple, there wouldn't be so many resources dedicated to helping people stop their porn/sex/lust addiction. If it was simple, it wouldn't be an addiction, and no one would be on this site looking for help because this forum wouldn't exist.
So I decided to try building models. I have a bunch that I want to build, but I'm going to build the BTTF DeLorean first, then probably a Star Wars TIE Interceptor. Here is a list of a bunch of hobbies if you're looking for what's available to try. The bottom line is that boredom is the first step on the road to relapse for most any addiction, if not all of them. You just have to look at what hobbies are out there and try one. If it doesn't work, then you just have to keep looking until you find one that works for you! That's the way to keep boredom from setting in, giving way to temptation to engage in our addiction.
You can read an interesting book. Watch an interesting show. Take a walk or run. Lift weights. Volunteer Learn a new language. Learn a musical instrument. Write. Pick locks. Learn to cook. Pray. Meditate. Go to a shooting range. Write handwritten letters to friends and family. Go for a drive. Travel. Draw. Go to an art exhibit. Go to a museum. Hangout with friends. Make new friends. Write jokes. Those are a couple of options. I get it though, it's difficult. One effect of P I have noticed is my creativity has been absolutely demolished. The overstimulation from P also has made me less stimulated by healthy wholesome activities. Boredom sets in quick and kills a lot of the things I used to find interesting, like art, music, etc. I hope that with more sobriety under my belt that I will get some of my creativity back.
I'm just messing with you guys ... Even though i'm nearly 200 days of nofap, I eventually find myself enjoying hentai pics like a huge pervert. It's a bad thing ... I need to find a babe ... Poor me ...
You’re right when I think about it. Sometimes when I was getting over porno, I was really bored when my thoughts got in for me to watch it. I’m trying some things in order to keep my mind off of it and it seems to be working little by little. Thanks man
That’s great! Of course, the issue of the sexual urge still remains. So, what to do? A big hint is in the question - do your level best to find a loving woman and make love to her.
I feel like that's pretty bad advice. To not lust, you're telling him to have sex with a woman. Even if that is his end goal, that's not going to help him because lust will still be his goal, not connection through intercourse. But also, it sounds like lust or sex of any kind is what he's trying to avoid.
So am I. And I'm speaking for myself when I tell you that's bad advice to be giving to any lust addict.
i have few things to suggest, so i see there's many suggestions to give you a distraction, but less so about redirecting sexual tenshion itself, is this the problem? you can dm me, i can give you some suggestions, but it can offend some people, but i'm gonna be blunt, so the risk is on you. choice is yours. cheers