Disclaimer: It's not a thread about relationships and girlfriends I'm actually not alone. I've got family and friends. But for some strange reason, I've been feeling lonely for like half a year already. I'm not alone, but feel lonely Like I can't connect to other people Also, a ever lasting feeling of boredom is haunting me. NOTHING excites me really Now, having given up PMO which was my only distraction, I feel like losing my mind I feel desperate and doomed. I can't sleep because of my thoughts Thoughts which want to force me to be productive and not lazy. Thoughts which tell me to spend more time with other people I feel so unrested on the inside, I'm constantly punching my pillow and scratching my head
This might not be any help but have you tried meditation? There is a very good meditation app called MEDITO. It is free and run by people who think meditation should be free and available to anyone who seeks it. Might be worth checking it out
I personally use medito. It's been nothing short of amazing. Even though I just started using it. It's helpful
I know what you mean. I feel lonely a lot of the time even when I'm not actually alone. Then actually spending time with people is exhausting and makes me not want to bother. Your problem sounds like depression, or more specifically anhedonia. There are a million possible reasons for it but when it comes to porn addiction, it is so stimulating that everything else seems faded and boring. Then when you quit it, the brain goes into a sort-of hibernation while it recovers from the damage. What I try to do, and don't always succeed at, is force myself to do things for practical reasons, not to create joy, when I go through these phases. At least that way, you're still moving forward, even if you're not feeling anything. The worst thing you can do is stop.
I know for me, the solution to bad feelings is to quit PMO, quit MO, and to exercise regularly, to lay in the sun, to eat healthy, to get enough sleep, and to think about good, pure things. Then, my mind and body are radiating health and positive energy. So there is no room for bad thoughts because my wavelength is tuned to a great frequency, so there is only smiles
Is there some kind of adventure that you can do? Something that has a certain amount of risk? Can you face some of your fears? Because sitting at home isn't going improve.
Im feeling the same. Some days are very productive but some are like i dont feel like doing anything. These are cycles for me. When there is big hype like sex then there is big down next day. If i keep it const then its quite good. I try to keep ro my schedule, often i dont feel like doing stuff because i think its better to fap. But when i dont fap im thinking about the current activity.
The youth is so sedentary and unmotivated these days. I make suggestions, they ignore them. Ok, stay like that. Feel like crap. Achieve nothing.
Hey dude, nice to hear from you again. I think @LOSEmyselftoSAVEmyself is right about this. You might need more adventure. I experienced flatline my last reboot which was approaching 90 days. It was so bad that it made me doubt why I even quit porn. I believe this is because even though your body heals, but you're still living the life of a PMO addict, just without PMO. Think about it, when you are an addict to something for 5, 10, 15 years, you constructed your lifestyle for your addiction. Do you really think that a non-user will be happy living the life of a user? No way, never. Think of it like this. If you were quitting smoking, would you still take cigarette breaks every hour and sit in the smoking section? No, that's stupid. Why keep living like a smoker? You need to figure out how porn influenced your lifestyle, and proactively do the opposite. Change your life to the life of a non-user.
Wise suggestion! I like the idea of adventure by facing fears. Skydiving is a waste, it's not productive. I'm talking about talking to people, going places, trying things, getting outside of the house.
The best thing to do is try and influence your surroundings – the physical space around you, and your circumstances. None of this meditation mumbo jumbo. It helps, yes, but unless your reality is already in order it’s just another distraction. Focus on the external first. Perceptible changes. Look back to what obsessed you as a child. Ask your parents if you don’t remember. Then get your dopamine/stimulation from rekindling that passion. Everyone has one, but you gotta take the time to figure it out if you don’t already know what it is. This will fill the void of boredom you feel. You need a source of excitement to replace the distractions or you’ll relapse, or go crazy from boredom.
Go deep inside and learn to follow your intuition, continuing your current streak. Do meditation but also potentially start moving out more. Listen to yourself and your gut feeling, you will know what the next step is for you, currently. You are lacking something essential in your life which is why you feel disconnected even being surrounded by others.