I'm 33 yo. I'm 130 days out of PMO for the first time after addiction. I've tried thousands of ways to stop this but I failed every time. but now I did it. in my journey, I found that the first 3 months of the start point are tough, after that, it's going to be easy to continue. everyone needs to know that we should be strong to start. the start point is more important than continuing. I've left coffee after starting nofap and take omega3, vitamin D, and healthy food to help my recovery. now I don't think about PMO anymore and I will never come back to it.
Please share your plan. How did you manage to get there? Same here, 30yo, 18 years of addiction. Been building good habits since a very long time (healthy eating, regular sleep, quit all drugs, very busy schedule, meditation, excercise, ...) But cant seem to get past those 30 days...
At the first, I had promised my god that if I going to die on this journey I never touch myself and I stayed on my promises. that was my crazy plan.
I have already tried that route... And i broke my pledge on the third week :/ maybe it was not truthfull. Im starting a new streak tomorrow. You inspired me to add the following pledge to it, i will ponder over it the remaining time of the day, write it down, and read it out loud every single day. "I hereby pledge, as an unbreakable oath to my Higher Self, to never watch porn or masturbate again, even to the peril of my life."
I understand. but that was the only route that worked for me. that's a tough challenge and we should be strong. nice. I believe you can do it too.
Wow, that's inspiring. I'm only on day two. Most I've ever got to is about 40-50 days, then committment wained and I went back to it all. I'm determined to actually do this again now. Reading stuff like this is what I need. Thank you
Congratulations. You are an inspiration for sure. Can you share more about your life before and after?
Of course. if you ask me about the benefit of nofap that I identified, I found some. since 2 months ago I've had a more stable mood and had no depression so this is new for me. also, I feel more motivated and have started new things and challenges, and am better at thinking. this is, for now. since 6 months ago, I've exercised for 45 minutes per day. it's so helpful.
Thank You. The longest streaks I've reached so far were 109 in October 2020 and 124 in December 2021 and the withdrawal symptoms were huge. It actually makes sense after 25 years of decadence so I accept it. I've seen all the benefits you are describing and more but even if I hadn't seen any of these, I would have continued with my nofap ambition. It is the only true way how to live. I wasted enough time with this bullshit already. Even when I was twelve, I knew that masturbation is wrong but all these teenage magazines were speaking different language - 'it is completely healthy. Masturbate as much as you want to.' I have no regrets though. One of the things I've learnt in my life is that more you screw up, the more lifechanging correction can come. At least it has always been like that with me, the deeper I sink, the higher I fly later. In my experience with the longest streaks is that it takes from 2 to 3 months before I feel good again. Therefore one silly slip is hard price to pay. Stay strong and keep up the good work. What surprised me though when I screwed up last time in December was the second flatline/Paws/ withdrawal and that was also my poor excuse for not making it. In my days 120+ suddenly I started to feel unexpected level of anxiety, nervosity, brain fog, insomnia. I hadn't felt like that for years. So there I was again - hello darkness my old friend, I've come to talk with you again And yeah, I'm pretty sure it is nofap related. I'm already quite familiar with how it feels. This level of darkness after 120+ days on very disciplined nofap and after 600 days of different streaks caught me off guard and I slipped big time. What about you and the second wave of withdrawal symptoms? Have you ever come across that? And how about insomnia? Or later in the streak reduced need for sleep? Tha same as you during my nofap adventure I've made a few updates, firstly I said goodbye to coffee (it was tough after 20 years/ 3 cups a day), then green tea, then I drastically cut down on salt ( another withdrawal followed , yeah it is kind of funny). The maximum recommended dosage for an adult is 6 grams. In my calculations I had found out that my consumption is 20 to 30 grams a day. Then I started hiking and running a lot. I also cut down on wine and cigars. Now I drink and smoke only once a month and I don't need to say that my running got way better. Then I increased my intake of raw food ( fruit and veggies) - this is very important point. There is a lot of science behind this. I can't emphasize that enough. Last but not least is when I about a year ago started to sleep on the floor. Google this. Don't get me wrong, my bed is pretty awesome but it just feels better and now I can't imagine going back. Yeah, my friends are laughing too And the last update since the beginning of this month, the same as you I started to work out. At this moment it is 3 times a week 40 minutes but the goal is 1 hour a day. The motivation is there but my muscles will not let me do more as of now. One of the major things in my journey was when I realised that fapping was somehow my outlet for not facing my thoughts and emotions. I truly had no idea before I stopped. Since then I've researched different strategies and again fucked up many times. I have made significant progress and the teachings of Eckhart Tolle ( Power of Now, Stillness speaks and the New Earth) became my bible. I'm reading all these books again and again. If you came across similar realisation, I can highly recommend. One will not be truly free unless he is free of his mind. The last thing I would like to ask you about are wet dreams. I haven't had any so far. But I felt in some moments that it's kind of lurking behind the corner. In the last years when I was reading this forum, I was looking forward to having some. I would have taken that as a healthy sign of successful rebooting ( pretty cool to have this experience like if I were a teenager again ) but after further research I realised that it isn't something I want to see. The way I see it the power of nofap consists of two things: 1.) No masturbation thus no major dopamine release and rewiring your corrupted sexual thoughts and consequently transmutating the sexual energy into all areas of your life 2.) No ejaculation and thus protecting and saving your life force. What is your experience with wet dreams and how do you feel about them? O.K., this post is certainly longer than I originally intended, my apologies. Once again, congratulations.
i promised my god(allah) after a week i forgot the promise and i stared waching porn and fapping again!
I will try something new; a pledge to my higher self (your allah) repeated morning and evening looking myself in the mirror into the depths of my soul with my hand placed on the top right of my chest (the seat of the spiritual heart). Maybe this approach can help you too?
yeah may be i will try it i think it helps me very THANK YOU! but it's kinda hard to judge: i will never wach pornography again
A pledge has its strongest effect if you are absolutely certain about itI. ts like a decision you makewith 100% confidence and certainty. You can change it to suit your level of dedication: 1 week, 1 month, 3 months, ...
It’s not so much what you say or pledge... it’s the power that you give to it. The reason these types of pledges often work to finally break the spell, is because they shift our mindset. It’s all a mind game. Reading it every day is great.. but remember that it’s not the mundanity of reading it that makes it work. It’s that you embody what it is you’re saying. You have to become the man that your pledge suggests, from day 1. You have to become a man that no longer watches porn or masturbates.. not just a man that says he won’t. Hope you catch my drift, this detail has helped me out a lot. You can even try performing a type of ritual, where say you sit with your thoughts and pledges for a period of time, and then for example, you step through a doorway. And you tell yourself prior, that when you step through that doorway, you are now a completely different man. And you have to feel that you are, and go on to act accordingly.
Be careful. The addict part of brain isn’t dead yet. (It probably never will be.) I’ve been where you are before. I too thought I was never going back. But at some point, your brain will try to convince you aren’t an addict anymore and you can indulge occasionally. It starts with a peek, and slowly escalates until you PMO. No matter how long your streak, if quitting was difficult, the habit can return. We are never far away enough from it. you should be proud. My first 90 days was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. That streak was over a year and a half before I fell. Thankfully, it’s never been as bad as it was before that streak. I’m really happy for you. Just don’t get complacent.
Thank you for taking the time to write 1. I helped myself by exercising and taking some supplements and eating healthy food to help me with withdrawal symptoms. 2. I have wet dreams one time every 30-40 days. I'm ok with that because the pressure in my body goes down.
