I just realized we both have exactly thresholds. And I got to those days but I realized I didn't have a solid plan past 90days. So I came back and took these thresholds casually assuming coz I had 120+ milestone it would be easy....the truth I am still at day 3 after frequent relapses. This week I am more focused on thresholds than anything else.
Thank you very much for these very helpful hints! I haven't made it more than a week so far - then I fell off the wagon (not with porn, but with escorts, which is my problem - porn is more of a substitute for escorts...). I'm encouraged to hear that those first few days are the hardest - and that it gets a little easier with time. Thank you!
No problem mate! And yes, it WILL get easier over a certain time. I can't say for sure when because we are all a little diffrent. Give it a chance and you will be amazed how easy it actually is. Think of how proud you would be of yourself after making it to 7 days. And you could think of it like this; I made it to day 3, that's my record, okay, now lets do ONE more day, then after that, ONE more.. and so forth. It's like carefully laying one brick at the time and when you get over a certain amount of thresholds you're finally more free and your head will be much more clear so from there you can make much better choices. I think this also has to do with letting the brain have a rest, so that other parts of it can work around the problem to make better choices. But the tiredness that PMO causes, and the focus on stimulation makes us temporarly "blind" to other ways of thinking. It's sort of "hypnosis" in a way. It's like being in a mental state where you can't see anything else or better. I therefore try to remind myself of how incredibly good I felt at the days around 35-45. When you do NF the right way, lift some weights, get enough sleep, etc. You will enter a new level of consciousness. It's so good being there that you don't even care about PMO or other S:ual things. It's something you need to experience because it's impossible to explain. A longer streak activates the heart. But PMO over-stimulates the lower parts and the mind. Many other's doing NF has mentioned the activation of the heart-energy. If I knew about this at age 17 I would have been a much happier and a much confident teenager. But I wasn't. I was always tired. Good thing is that it's not too late. I think starting NF at 50 could even be a good thing.
I also came to the conclusion during my 124 days that after day 45 I didn't care about the days, like at all. When I came up to 90 and 100 it was like.. cool. Now what? I came to the realization that it's not about actual days. It's essential at the beginning to prove to yourself what you're capable of, and to boost your confidence. But when you think about it, it's all about what you feel, think and know right at this present moment, right now -every day. I don't think that I'm going to make it for 100+ days. I just think that "today I'm going to be pure, and nomatter how bad I feel or how difficult this is, I will do it", and I just do it. Even thou I've failed sometimes it has always gotten better and better over time. But there must also be other changes in life. Lifting wheights is one of the best during NF, whether it's 15 min or 2 hours, anything is better than nothing. And there must be something else that doesn't stimulate the mind, but makes you feel good and calms you down. This gives more room for better thoughts to come through the distorted mental state that PMO has caused. And how do you do that? By spending time outside in Nature or in a park. Anywhere you can be where there's trees and no humans around. I have done this for a while and it was crucial to reach my goals. Humans spend too much time indoors (me included) and that's an unnatural place for us to be in a longer time, in the same way we are then surrounded by unnatural electro-magnetic fields of electronics and the air we breathe is worse.. it goes on and on. This unnatural environment is like "food" for unnatural behaviours, like PMO. We also need daylight to function properly as humans, and the eyes need this sun light to stimulate the brains production of melatonin for good sleep when it gets dark. When you sleep is has to be as dark as possible for your brain to produce melatonin. Good sleep increases testosterone and increased testosterone means better semen production and better mental health and overall mental stability.
2/90... very hard two weeks. After 56 I relapse last week and having a hard time ti get a few days without relapsing. I was dping very strong until I stop building good habits, lacking off and not taking care of my myself an dmy relationship with Jesus, firm rock in my recovery.
Nice work! If I could do 120+, you can do more than I did. You made it to 36, anything is possible after that. I Know it.
Don't worry. You have all the power and control that you need to stop PMO. I know that when we lose focus for some time, often during a flatline, we could be tempted to relapse. But a relapse is always a choice. You will improve and you will do better next time because your mind is already set. Otherwise you wouldn't be here, right? You know what you have to do in order to heal and you are already on the right path. Everytime you relapse you will become a littlebit or a lot more wiser than before. Do not think of the number of days. Only think about this day -everyday. There is no future, only different types of now. Be present in the moment.
I hope i reach your level, i mean the mindset and the number of days too, though days are not important. Before, I reached 45 days that is my longest streak, since then i'm stuck in an endless loop of relapsed. Back at the time i relapsed out of curiosity, novelty,...
Agreed! Care is needed to make sure the new habits don't become ruts in themselves. At this point my brain is so used to the ease with which it can get dopamine from porn that even playing video games can feel like work to me. I know that sounds crazy, but it's true. So, at the moment I'm not in danger of spending that much time on it (plus I have full-time responsibilities and I get sleepy at nights so...). With sugar I've never really had an issue with overdoing it. I'm a sucker for other vices like booze and porn, but sugar just never did it for me enough to become addictive. I doubt it'll turn into anything. I eat very healthy otherwise, lots of whole foods, salads, and veggies. Thanks for the support!
Congratulations, Bob! Hope you'll carry your streak right into the 150-day challenge. As for me, I foiled again by looking at pics/gifs late a night (my worst trigger). I'm tightening up security on my computer and remove these websites. Day 0/90