I'm 28. I started watching porn at the age of 12. I watched really hardcore stuff, almost everyday with long sessions and lots of edging. I started NoFap at the beginning of 2018 with average streaks about 15-20 days, sometimes longer, but not more than a month. I just reached 7 months porn and masturbation free. During this time I only let my girlfriend give me a handjob, but I was completely porn and masturbation free. During handjobs I'm generally hard, but when I attempt to penetrate or put a condom on my dick goes down so fast. Today I did a test and masturbated for the first time in 7 months. I made myself hard, but when I stopped stroking my dick started to go down really fast. In just a few seconds I lost 50% of erection. I also noticed that I'm really hard only when close to climax. I noticed a lot of improvements in those 7 months: - rock hard morning woods, - starting getting erection just by kissing or making out (not strong just about 50%, but before NoFap my dick was completely flat while kissing or making out...) - more energy and motivation - enjoying life But after doing today's test I'm starting to wonder if it's really PIED? Or maybe sth else? I did a blood test a few months ago and everything was ok, testosterone was really high, prolactin was low. It shouldn't be an organic problem as I have morning woods and they are strong. Performance anxiety? Not with my hand, so why does my erection go down so fast when I stop stroking? Why am I not able to put a condom on without losing erection? After this I got really disappointed and I'm not really sure if PIED is my problem... I thought that after 7 months of NoFap I should be cured and have normal erections. Could you please help me? I'm so disappointed.
First I have to congratulate you on 7 months. That’s a huge accomplishment. From reading your post it sounds like you have some performance anxiety when it comes to intercourse with your girl. Be open with her about what you’re experiencing and hopefully she is supportive and doesn’t say things to make the anxiety worse. One thing to try is stay hydrated all day every day. I have been on and off nofap since 2017 and it wasn’t until 2019 that I started drinking at least 3/4gallon to 1 gallon of water per day. The first couple days of being fully hydrated my erections were hard and firm. Start the morning with a bottle of water before you have coffee or anything else. Good blood flow will equal a good erection. Also working out helps to get blood pumping. Hope this helps. Stay strong bro.
Hi dude, it's totally understandable to feel down and worried however I personally feel this is something that won't be an issue once you go on a even longer streak of no porn and masturbation. It sounds like your body is still conditioned to masturbating and not yet to physical sex. The good news is that you're seeing a lot of progress in the 7 months you stayed sober. Keep up the good work! Please note being an addict for 16 years is a long time and everybody's recovery timeline is different, but that doesn't mean you give up or stop trusting the process. If you divide 7 months by 16 years, it's less than 6% where you've stayed sober. Keep doing what you're doing and let us know when you make it to a year of no PM and if your experience is any different. Good luck, i'm rooting for you
But during masturbation my erection was only hard while close to climax and when I stopped stroking my dick goes down in a seconds...
In my opinion you can still have the anxiety. Think of it, you weren’t masturbating because you were so horny you couldn’t take it anymore. You were just stroking to get hard and examine the hardness of your erection. Being in that state of mind is similar to anxiety.
If your dick in the morning is strong than you are healthy rest is in your head. If you want to get hard and simultaneously you are thinking how hard you will get than it won’t work. Don’t be afraid that you will fail, accept that. Try to cuddle with you girlfriend with assumption that you will not get sex, blowjob, handjob. There are many things you can do to your girlfriend with your hands, tongue, toys just experiment. Give yourself more time and treat that time us your practice how to make your girlfriend cum without using your dick
I feel you bro, I am also in a similar situatoin, from what I have read in other posts, this can go as long as 2 years. Best thing you cna do, don't test alone and do it with your girl
Two years my friend ... if you're lucky. I'm in 8 month hard mode no significant improvement maybe more wood in the morning.Same situation like you. The story 3 months is just a myth or for some who have minimal symptoms.
This is your problem. You have not done an actual reboot. What you did is next to nothing. You need to start from day 0 and have no orgasms at all. That is how you heal. That means you shouldn't be receiving handjobs from your GF. Of course you did not get better.
I don't agree. Absence is just 50% of the process. Second 50% is rewire to real partner and real sex to teach your brain how real intimacy looks.
I would like to update my story. Like I posted before, I reached 7 months porn and masturbation free and my PIED is still not cured. So I decided to try blue pills. I have tried blue pills only once before. It was 1,5 year ago when I was still watching porn, I took 25 mg of Sildenafil and it didn't work, absolutely zero results... Last night I took 50 mg of Sildenafil and here's what happend. I was taking a bath with my gf, she touched my dick, just a three strokes and I was rock hard! It never happend to me before. The difference in erection was enormous. Even she was supprised how hard my dick was. She was giving me blowjob/handjob and even if she stopped for a while my dick was still hard, not getting soft rapidly like always. So I think it's a great success! I think my issue is mental, like some of you have said in my original post. I was stressing too much and putting to much pressure on myself to get hard and eventually I couldn't get hard... I think that blue pills helped me with that as I was more confident about getting hard. Now I know that the problem is not my dick but brain and stress. I know that my brain is still not fully healed, so I will continue my no porn and no masturbation journey and never go back to this shit again. Next time I will test the effect of just 25 mg of Sildenafil. To be clear I'm against taking pills and I don't want to be dependent on them. But I think I just need a little support of blue pills to gain more conifidence. I read many stories like this from guys here that after reboot they needed a little support of blue pills and then eventually they were able to have sex without it.
Good for you. I'm a big fan of the little blue pills, though I'm more of a tadalafil guy. I dont understand why so many people here are dead against them. If people think that taking a pill is actually worse than the horrible, awful feeling of not being able to perform, well good luck to you. Yes in an ideal world you or I or anybody shouldn't need them, but they are a very effective solution which can help restore confidence, which is what it boils down to.
I'm almost at day 200 and still in the same situation. I have morning woods, sometimes ejaculating in sleep, but I see some hope there, even though I become very anxious from time to time.