Hello, I posted on this forum before about my problematic porn use, it's been two years of trying to quit this tiring addiction, I just turned 15 a couple of weeks ago and 2021 started and I still haven't quit which saddens me deeply also makes me suicidal and empty. So I'm not really thinking of cutting my own Johnson, but maybe trying to cause a wound on it so that it hurts the next time I try to masturbate and that way I can't jerk off. Do you think I should do that, or will it have bad effects on me?
I seriously want to quit this addiction, I don't know what I should do else, I've tried everything, cold showers, building habits, filling the day with activities, porn blockers, and still to this day can't quit. I hate my life. I really don't care if it's going to hurt, I just want to end this no matter how painful it is.
I get it, you're not alone in your journey. But cutting it off won't do the trick, and you will definitely regret it. It's too extreme of a measure. While doing all of these other things that you mentioned can be pretty helpful in PMO recovery, you've also got to remember what triggers PMO in the first place. For example, for me it was being alone after being stressed out for the entire day from work or family or from thinking that no one in the world cares about me. These are all things that you can control within your head if you learn how to. Had I known that I wouldn't have wasted so many years in my life. What I'd recommend is talking to your friends or family irl, on the phone, or online whenever you find yourself in that situation. That will shock your brain out of its current mood because you're interacting with someone else, and all of your mental energy will be redirected towards that. Another thing that may help in recovering is practicing mental exercises or meditation to have more control over your mind and body. These can definitely come in handy. And lastly, the best thing that you can do is telling someone close to you that you trust about this issue. This person, whomever it may be, will hold you accountable for your actions, which increases the pressure on you to not relapse. The secrecy of PMOing can sometimes be the most damaging part, and destroying that to even one person can definitely help. Hope this post can be of aid!
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I already told two of my siblings and my mother about this, my two siblings were a little helpful, but every time I talk to my mother about this I get an outrage from her, she gets really angry at me because she's religious and tells me to quit it immediately or something bad will happen. But I've never tried meditation before, maybe it would help if I'm being honest. Also today the main trigger for relapsing was the stress of studying and my stupid mind rationalizing porn.
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rather than a penectomy you could try a castration its the same effect, don't cause urinary issues and is reversible later on.But really if you spend after a month of two without thinking of girls or sex in general you will lose all interest and gain all manners of superpowers. In all seriousness if it was easy to quit we wouldn't be here so take it a day at a time.
I don't know which one to choose, but castration may be better, it's extremely difficult for me to go 3 days without masturbating and one of the reasons is that every time I get an urge my brain rationalizes porn by imagining how hard it will be to quit and how many days and shit I have to go through, so my brain instead decides that fapping is an easier option.
Obviously don't do that. And also, let your emotions calm down so you don't make any dumb decisions you might regret lol. I can tell you made that post right after you relapsed. Install porn blockers on all your devices and keep yourself busy.