Finished Day 02/90 but I was just too busy yesterday to report. As where I am its day 01/365 in 2021, and its day 03/90. Day 04/90 in progress. Happy new year everyone. And let's start 2021 clean.
I am going to reset my challenge to day 1 today. Not that I have reset or relapsed but just that its day 1 of new year and day 1 of my new beginning. My challenge goals are /include: No PMO that includes subs and all, as well any other associated behaviours such as looking girls in the street etc. Reducing screen time(other then work/stdies) to less then 1hr a day or one movie max. Month 1/12.
I kinda noticed its like spinning a heavy wheel...... At first you will apply alot of force to get it going....over time it gets easier and you just have to monitor the wheel.....but if you become reluctant and the wheel loses momentum....then your most likely to relapse.....just get the wheel started...and over time you will just have to monitor it and keep applying less and less force
I don't think its the age......i think 1. When you started and how long have been addicted 2. How long have been trying to quit..... The experience you start gaining it when you start quiting PMO....coz thats when you start noticing your relapse patterns and overcome them...
Thanks for typing that up. Really useful. What I take from this is that vigilance is the key. Initially a high degree and then at a steady pace. That was really interesting to visualise that via your analogy. Kind of sticks in the mind. Thankyou and happy new year.
Y You know what's amazing..... after enough time on NoFap....my sexual desires stabilized......like back i would walk on the streets and i wanted to have sex with every girl i by passed....the desire was so strong......but after sexual energy stablized.... it's really an amaizng feeling to not experience sexual cravings all the time.
Thankyou. You are right it depends how long you been in that and how long you been trying to quit. For me it's been most of my life. I have always been at it to quit but never succeeded. But I think I am at the stage of learning and perseverance now that I feel that I have accumulated just about enough knowledge and experience and I can get over it. Having g said that I fought off other addictions without all those insights so it all depends and varies with individual experiences
Another day pmo free . I did indulge I some lustful thoughts last night but it didnt lead to m. I need to avoid the indulgence though because it could lead me back to p or m. Plus i feel better mentally not indulging. That was the first time since i started this streak. While driving today i realized how important daily check ins are to staying on track; its easy to go back to bad thinking and posting each day keeps my intention and abstinence up front. I wish you all a happy new day. One day at a time.
I think more than anything else success depends on how badly you want it and being willing to go to any lengths to get it.
Day 3! Happy new year everyone! This one WILL be better! Because we will make it better for ourselves and others! Let go of all you don't need in your life - this addiction, people that don't treat you right, things that are wasteful of your time and resources! Set the right expectations and don't overpromise things today! Take them down 1 at a time! I will see you tomorrow! (By the way I sense the recovery again! Had a dream of opening a gallery of sexy pictures then woke up realized its 6 am haha have not had one of these dreams since last spring!)
Day 87. I'm having my date tomorrow at 9 am. It's only 6 PM on the previous day, yet I am a nervous wreck already. I wish I could cancel. But of course I won't. Gosh this sucks so much.