Pretty much all in the title! I guess, due to my pied symptoms, I just don't understand how long the "optimal" erection is supposed to last. Is it from light kissing all the way to sex? Foreplay to sex? Every time I have had an experience with a girl, I tend to go on and off, hard to flaccid to hard flaccid etc Even during direct stimulation I cannot maintain an erection, I just don't understand how long someone who doesn't suffer from pied or ED is able to maintain? Any explanation helpful and valued!
I think depending on how far and deep you have gone into recovery will affect the process. I had started to lose sensation in my penis and would get in my head if I was erect or losing my erection. Once the thought entered my head I was done. Really frustrating and hard to not think about. So I’m not sure there is an answer. Everyone is , try not to add something else to judge you self on.
Depends, I´ve heard stories of guys who have trouble stopping their erections once, they start, whereas others are crazily good at pushing and holding theirs back.
That depends a lot from people to people, how addicted they were for, and several other factors. You may have been less addicted perhaps.
It should stay hard during direct stimulation, if there are no underlying conditions. It should be staying hard during the foreplay too, but you may lose it occasionally. But it won't go flaccid, just less erect. Then when its time for penetration, you should be completely hard and then obviously staying 100% while inside of her.
Depends on who I´m compared to, I always assumed to be a average fapper who faps daily once, and has peak fapping episodes of twice a day, but I know more severe cases. In wanting to fap? I´m starting to relapse, my dick wants to fap now and I´m having trouble dealing with it, it´s only day 8 and I tried to quit fapping 1-2 times before for much less days. What I think I have a lesser addiction to, is searching for fapping material, I´m way lower than average, more often than not is the material that founds me, it´s not even near my youtube watching addiction. The material still has eff on me, I´m just not being a slave searching for it anymore, that should be step 1. Step 2 would be if the material finds you, to state: "this isnt worth fapping to" and resist the temptation.
That makes sense but what do you mean "when its time for penetration" as in, in the gap between erection, putting on a condom and penetration - is the penis expected to be completely hard? Is it normal course of business to be completely hard while putting on a condom?
I think there is no standard or correct way. In my eyes then quality and duration of erection is a result of many factors such as excitement, arousal, fatigue, anxiety, stimulation. If you think that one or several of these factors are off the track, it might have a negative impact on your erection
I think there is no standard or correct way. In my eyes then quality and duration of erection is a result of many factors such as excitement, arousal, fatigue, anxiety, stimulation. If you have the feeling that one or several of these factors are off the track for you, then it might have a negative impact on your erection.
Yeah, you should be hard when putting on the condom. If your erections are still weak after NoFap/PMO recovery, there are many options available. As a last resort, you have sex pills. So don't worry too much about your erection.
One of the things I´ve been noticing after 9 days of nofap, is that holding out from erecting is now easier than ever case it takes much longer to build-up the dick for the deed.
Thanks this is very helpful. Day 15 today and am seeing stronger and more spontaneous erections. But still a long way to go I hope
Pre NoFap it was pied. I couldn’t keep my boner till I wore the condom. Barely penetrated 15 seconds before going soft. Felt nothing while penetrating. Although once I started nofap I slowly started getting my morning wood back around day 7-8. I didn’t notice a different up until day 30-40 after I came out of my first flatline. Extreme horniness. Then after I came out of my second flatline around day 60+ it was even better, boners were far better and stronger