Of course! But especially when people are starting, it is a good thing to have an external help. After all, that's why we're all here on Nofap.com right? If it was as simple as "fighting it yourself" then no one would need to be here.
I use Covenant Eyes and screenshots get sent to an ally every day. The ally is someone I would not want to know I had looked at porn. It was like an epiphany when I realized I needed to cut off access. I had done this whole will power thing, beating myself up over and over, for many years. What's really needed is humility. You have to admit that this is a problem for you and you can't do it alone, just like you did here. Humility does not mean you lack courage. It takes courage to say you need help. I don't know if your parents are the type you could talk to about something like this, but it may be worthwhile.
I mean I do know that porn is destroying anyone who comes near it, I'm trying my best to convince myself not to do it, but I utterly fail most of the times, but I'm never giving up no matter what, and I'll keep educating myself about the negative effects porn, sometimes I wish I didn't come near it at first, but that will not change anything, the only thing I can do now is to be strong and try to quit.
I told my brother about this and he was very upset about it, and wanted very much to help me quit, but no matter how much we tried I still relapse, I already told my mother, but it's very hard to quit, I think the main problem here was that I spent too much time alone so it's easy to go and relapse when there's no one around, but I'll try to tell my father about this which may help, I don't know how his reaction will be, also I'll try my very best to tell other people that I'm struggling with this addiction.
Yes that's actually a very brilliant tip, I'd say it's a cycle, before relapsing there's a trigger, before a trigger, there's a desire to get triggered, therefore you have to reject that desire to get triggered, but I think it's easily said than done, but maybe building new habits like reading, exercising, sports etc. and sort of applying them in to your daily life, can help avoid that desire to get triggered, also I'm still experimenting with different ideas and stuff to try to quit, but I know that God believes in me and that I can do it deep down in my heart I believe in myself. Thank you mate! Edit: Actually there is a mistake here, I forget to mention that you can get triggered unintentionally without a desire, so yes you have to build a new healthy lifestyle to avoid that desire, but at the same time for instance social media, TV or even YouTube without restrictions set can be major contributors to triggering someone during rebooting. So you have to be willing to sacrifice the aforementioned triggers above if you are truly willing to quit.
Wow, that's a very useful tip, and by my luck I found a porn blocker which requires a password to access which I can use to block any pornography websites on my laptop, it's impossible to access Going on with the streak without social media is very difficult, but I'm deleting it including youtube, I'll try my best to limit the use of technology, I even downloaded a blocker, of course I'll follow u too, the post u sent me was useful, thank u very much mate!
Sometimes we tend to cover our lack of happiness with porn. If we feel lonely we don't feel bad anymore because that means we can watch porn. But the truth is we are. Your mind is telling you that it wants more social interactions or more things that you enjoy. Instead of doing something active and healthy we decide to use our dopamine pain killer. Your brain needs dopamine somehow and porn gives you the highest peak. Just remember that porn will never help you when you have a bad day. Your friends and family will. Porn will never give you the feeling of being loved. Don't isolate yourself that is one of the most important things I wish I could tell myself when I was your age. DON'T ISOLATE YOURSELF. Take care
Very young to be watching porn, it is actually against the law for a 14 year old to be viewing smut. The parents need to do their job on this. You don't fully develop, physically and mentally until after 20 at least. In extreme situations young men should get sent away for internet, porn and gaming addictions.
I’ve been in this position many times. It is hard to dig yourself out of this rut with pure abstinence it would take some serious white knuckling to get over this initial period. What I did to get out was let myself watch porn whenever I felt like it but I could only watch one video and not skip ahead. First it was every day, then every 3 days, then every week. My most recent streak was just under 2 weeks. I am currently on day 8 and the urges are only slight.
Well that may work but you should know that your brain still memorizes those high dopamine peeks. It's still conditioning your brain on porn. The less you watch it the better. There is no easy solution I guess
But still, at last you have to take control over yourself only. I can say that for certain that even if I had used porn blockers, I would have still relasped the same number of times as I did now.
I think you should focus on thinking that you want a better life. The more you endure your streak the more free you will be. Hope it helps
I already blocked access to porn sites by OpenDNS, and after I blocked porn from my laptop I changed the password of my OpenDNS account to something I don't know at all, so that way these dirty websites will be finally blocked and at the same time it's impossible to access them also it's now impossible to access my OpenDNS account to unblock these dirty websites. Also my longest streak ever was 7 days, I only reached 7 days two times, but the next time I'm going to reach 30 days hopefully
Yes it helps very much, I also like to imagine myself what I would be like if I was still doing it for the next 10 years vs if I didn't do it for the next 10 years. This trick saved me from many relapses.
I decided that I should sleep at night and wake up early and fix my sleep cycle again, also I decided that I should get away from these devices, and try to watch tv with my family which was very helpful, because when I'm by myself no one can prevent me from doing it so I have completely freedom to watch porn, but when I'm with my brother playing with him or always trying to be social, that will prevent me from being alone. Thanks mate!
I actually quite agree, it's definitely the responsibility of the parents, they didn't know that giving their kids smartphones or laptops can allow unfettered access to these dirty websites, giving your 10 year old a smartphone is not very smart, I mean if you're going to give your children smartphone, at least download a parental control app.