After 7 Day streak and three days of too much work stress, I found my self relapsed again because of boredom and stress and I am resetting my counter, I know it's not my first time to relapse since we have started together this journey. But I am still having hope that one day I will do it. It's not that hard but I have two choices: the FIRST is not writing here, give up and relapse over and over again and say to myself "I can't do it, My life is a mess", the SECOND is to launch my self-motivation again because it's my life and stop fapping is a matter of life or death for me. I luckily have now one week vacation from my work, I will do everything right to pass this week, and I hope that after this week I can keep on with even higher motivation level than any time before. Please accept my apologies, and I would like to invite anyone who have relapsed to be brave, write it down here and start over again, we didn't expect from the beginning that all of us will reach the end of the road together, but we are still commited to finish that road anyway because these are our lives which worth trying as long as we breath. I am on my Day 1 now
The bad news: I have relapsed after 7 day streak The good news: In the last month, I have completed 14-Day streak -> 6-Day streak -> 7- Day streak which means that I have relapsed (3-4) times last month instead of watching porn everyday before we have started this journey together.
Day (1/3): Completed Successfully My Motivation is not like the first day we started together this journey together, but I insist on not giving up until reaching the end of this road. I hope that your days are passing well my friends, @G0ReadAB00k @Griitings @2ndChance! @Darkestbeforethedawn @krisztouch
Hi my friend... I have to admit that I'm back to jerking off once a day... At the moment I try to motivate myself but I can't get one the same level like when we started the jounrey. You're doing it right, you only relapsed like 3 times a month you still take your progress with you but I think I have to start over. Don't misunderstand me, I don't feel bad or something, It's just that I'm disappointed that I was not able to quit... and I know i just won't bring me anything of benefit but instant gratification, I hate it that I know that but I hate it that I can't endure to break free and quit once and for all.....
I have the wrong kind of motivation to endure the 90 days. I do it kind of for the count and that doesn't work. The count should make you proud of what you accomplished but it should not be your goal or motivation. Porn helps me to escape reality and somehow I obviously fear the reality... so I keep on doing it. Okay, enough bathing in self-pity. I need a new strategy.
You just need to get yourself ready back on the road, just take your time to think Why do you want to stop this bad routine? What are your dreams at the end of the road? Take your time to understand what do you need and then you can start the road again motivated and strong.
Yes, I'll think about these points you've mentioned. I do for sure know that pure willpower won't bring me any further than 14 days, I understand that it's a vision and a sense of really knowing how toxic this addiction is will finally bring release. It's a shift in mind, not a gathering of willpower.
Get back and start again. Keep in mind that we are fighting this addiction together. Let the group be an encouragement. We shall overcome!
Will power alone cannot do the job. It's about knowing the science behind porn addiction, and being determined to quit. There are lots of good things that we will gain if we separate ourselves from this enemy. We shall overcome!
DAY 31/90 COMPLETED I do have some mild desires but I don't give them attention. I focus on productive activities like reminding myself about how happy I will be if I finally quit this habit. That actually keeps me motivated.
Congrats my dear friend, you are motivating me. I am so proud of you having passed 5 phases out of 7, you can see now of course how you can control your feelings and thoughts. That's awesome.
Day (2/90): Completed NO urges at all, and meditation before sleep helped a lot. I won't start adding (the victory sign) on the day counter until I break my best record (which was 14 days).
DAY 32/90 COMPLETED I felt some loneliness, but I know it's part of the journey. I engaged myself with reading.
Day 1/90 I slept very bad and also had some cravings but I did not gave in to the. So it feels good to be back on the this journey with you guys. Daily Motivation: I want to see clear and don't hide from the real world and real life. That's why I'm doing this.
Day (3/90): Completed No urges or thoughts,a I did some workouts about 4 hours prior to bed and it helped a lot to get sleepy.