Tips on asking a girl out?

Don't let the fear of rejection get in your way.
That's one way to build confidence, to experience failure and to learn from your mistakes.
At the same time, work on yourself. Know your strengths and weaknesses and work with them. You can build confidence through improvement. Women are attracted to men who have some order in their life.

I suggest you set some goals. Converse with both and women to help with the fear of approaching a stranger. And go for it, you will fail, but you will start improving too.

 

don't ask too many questions before you meet her. On the first date, just ask her to grab some coffee or drink. don't go to the cinema or dinner. On the second date, you can do it.

 

I recommend u wait for ur 90 days to finish before approaching anyone, 'cause it will help ur confidence, etc. But beside what @Anakin66 and @MrYang29 said u can get to know the girl before asking her on a date, thus reduceing the chance of rejection. And don't assume all girls are perfect. I bet there will be lots of cases where u r the one not willing to go to another date with that girl.

 

get to know her too much online before you met her? it just makes her turn off and dump you.

 

I guess the most helpful tip I can give to someone in your situation is to take it slow and casual. If it’s going to be your first experience in the dating world, it’s very easy to take it too seriously too soon. Be careful you don’t become too obsessed with someone right off the bat, because it could lead to smother and potential heartache. Don’t make that subconscious assumption that the first person you enter into a relationship with is the one you’ll marry. It takes time, patience, and communication to really learn a person and connect with them. And be YOURSELF! I can’t say that enough. Obviously, you’ll want to be your BEST self to attract a woman. But don’t try too hard to offer her someone that you’re not.

 

Depends on ur skills. If are a boring person she will eventually dump u. I prefer not to waste my time out with someone just hoping she will the right one for me. Instead I take my time(much less) to see if she is worth it. And that has worked for me so far.

 

for me, when i know she responds my first message positively, just send a fun question or statement that can make her more talk-active, and after 3-4 times exchanging messages, i ask her out to a coffeeshop (local coffeeshop/st*rb**ks). 1 hour is enough

it'll be different approach if you already know her a little bit in real life before (school, collage), at least you both ever had a fun/interesting convo.

 

It's not about feeling good. It's about getting rid of the addiction. If u think u can manage that, go on.

 

These things depend on the culture of the country u live in. I usually don't rush into seeing the girl. But in your country it might be different.

 

Ask them out not expecting a yes or no, ask them out because you're scared and you want to conquer fear. Even if they say no you're still going to be happy because you did what you were scared to do.

 

The main thing here is to let things happen naturally. Every relationship, whether it’s a short term or long term one, will have it’s own unique timeline of unique events. Don’t go in with too much expectations. From my experience, expectations promote fear. Think about what we’re fearing: We fear rejection. In other words, we are afraid that something is not going to go our way, right? So challenge that by not having a “way,” so to speak. Just find someone that you share a mutual attraction with, and build on it however it happens.

Best of luck!

 

Meet people halfway. Express your interest. Invite people to an interaction or a date. The rest is up to them.

That's doing your best.

The problem is when people try to do more than their best. They try to control the natural outcome. They try to seek guarantees in a reality where there is none. Which leads to procrastination and perfectionism. Looking for the perfect thing to say or do before taking any action. Which leads to things like manipulation / convincing / censoring / forcing / needing / hiding / chasing / forcing. Finding ways to feel invincible before doing anything. Then when you finally take a risk... it might succeed, but that only reinforces your thoughts / feelings / beliefs / behavior in the direction of being paranoid and controlling. It might fail, which hurts you more than it should because you've procrastinated and perfectionist it to death.

The reality is that you have very little control. People are unpredictable. A random person with different interests / upbringing / past experiences is an uncertainty when it comes to being interested in you. You're going to be very good with people who are interested in who you are and very bad with people who aren't interested in who you are. If you act like somebody that you aren't for the sake of convincing someone that isn't interested in who you really are, then you'll reinforce a life of paranoia and control in order to constantly convince someone who isn't interested in who you really are to stay with a fake version of you. Which leads to resentment and to an inevitable toxic relationship where both of you are playing games with each other.

Meet people halfway. Express yourself honestly from the beginning. Accept that not everyone is going to be interested in you and that you're not going to be interested in everyone. This is a lot harder in the short run, but very rewarding in the long run. The toxic behaviors I mentioned above is very easy in the short run, but absolutely destructive in the long run.

It's not about acquiring a number / date / relationship / sex. It's about interacting with someone and seeing if both of you are willing to expand it.

If you're not so concerned with controlling the outcome, then you have more energy and focus to expressing yourself in the present moment. Allow the other person the opportunity to reject or accept you.