Great post. Thanks. I am exactly in the same place as you brother with no answers to give you than keep up the fight and preservance. We'll get there one day if we do. Do you really want to be a senior citizen one day still wanking to porn? I don't, so I keep battling this addiction.
Day 9/90 No PM Day 418 at attempting this challenge Day 144 weight training (M, W, F) Lifestyle: reduced caffeine, desserts and alcohol
It's all right, just don't give up! You can do this, as everybody can. Have you already tried to read the "getting started with nofap" guide? I fount that book really useful. You can get it from the NoFap.com homepage.
Hope. This will help. According to my study I have come to notice that At first it was a new experience. But later after getting addicted, now It was entangled into my life. I tried multiple times to stop it. But the major reason I was failing was because I hated myself. My mind and thoughts where always focused on what I lucked and what I didn't have. So I was always unhappy about myself. My eyes always showed sadness. I wasnt getting enough self internal happiness to make feel good about myself. But everytime things became hard or stressful, P would give me those great feelings and pleasure. Whenever I was stressed, bored, idle, anxious P was the only thing which give me good vibe. But ever since I started writing affirmations about my positive traits and observing my life more. I have come to notice that I have been doing amazing things which I have never focused on or became aware of.. Being able to reward myself self for those small achievements I have experienced and had done during the day has created this massive happiness in me. And every time I get the urges to do M. I think of how much am going to lose and how much I have gained. So I don't fall for the urges. So I think maybe start noticing the small positive things happening to you when you don't do PMO. And write them every morning and evening before bed.. look for anything. It can be the way you reacted, maybe a change in thoughts, increase in confidence, tried something new. So for me today I peeked a girl in public for the first time. And am gona write it down. Cause I was confident enough to do it. I don't know whether she liked it or not but am just happy that i am now confident enough to such things At first you may have a few things to wrote. But towards day 30. You will have alot to write Cause I started getting results around day 25. And now am very happy. Yes life maybe stressful so many things are going to happen which are out of your control. But it's those small moments you wrote down and where aware of that are going to give you confidence and resilience to power through the urges.
Thank you so much for the advise , I really appreciate it. I'm in Portugal and we are in lockdown as well now. My work starts next month, let's hope that things don't get too tense ^^ I will definitely start doing exercise at home. I have a yoga matt and some light dumbells(might not be heavy enough for me), but I think I'll manage, if anything I can order new dumbells or something. I'll keep working on my projects and educate myself as much as possible. And avoid unnecessary covid-19 news ^^ I'll try to change my room and organize it in a way that it makes me feel at ease. I wish you all the best buddy, Hugs!
Day 0, I'll not answer or like anything but I need to tell something, I'm tired of my life not reach any place, since 2018 I feel like If I'm stopped in the same place, and it's not a good place, it's a place of sadness, loneliness, procrastination and lots of failures inside and outside my mind. I need to do something with my life while I'm doing NoFap, every relapse that I have I feel so bad that I gave up from everything and I need to stop this NOW! NoFap is just a single thing in my life, that should be great and big, full of great things, but it's boring, sad, lonely and tiredly. It's not midnight so this is a victory, I'm in a lot of challenges including 90 days, 100 days Spartan Challenge, NoFap/NoPMO BOOTCAMP, No Screen Challenge. I choose those because they're represent the best solutions to my life and I want to do all of them, COMPLETE THEM! I'll sleep after write this. I need to prepare my home and room to sleep good, my bed is not made and it's dirty, I have not changed the blanket for a long time, that thing is really dirty, I need to change that urgently. And it's not my bed and room that are needing urgently changes, I'm having problems with School and it's the beginning of the year, my house is not cleaned for a while since my mom is studying and I'm not doing anything to help her! Such a good son I am... (that's irony). Anyway, I'll prepare my alarm clock, make my bed, clear my room, and eliminate some secondary tasks by now. I need to change my life and I'll not let these fucking urges win me again...
That's funny. You might want to comment on each post that it's a countdown so people like me aren't confused. Everyone usually counts up here.
great work, my brother never gets tired from fighting to change, me too have a big problem with my college but we gonna change all that together.