I am just wondering how damaging this is? So if you occasionally masturbate using your immagination? But something I have noticed when I do this is a somewhat porn thought or unrealistic scenario might pop in to my head. So earlier on I did masturbate just using my immagination, and I did begin to think about this model and I imagine I was having sex with this model. This did really turn me on. But I am thinking it is somewhat of a porn thought? and this could be very damaging?
I don't think of anything actually. It is really pathetic... looking at my dick and mindlessly stroking it until the feeling came
I wish I could answer this question. One the one hand it seems totally natural. How else are you to masturbate if not with your imagination. On the other hand I could see it keeping a spark on the old neuropathways. I honestly don't know.
Thinking about buying a fleshlight once my 90 days are over...for when the wife isn't up for it! What you reckon?
Then your marriage sounds open to that! Some marriages are, some aren't. It's good that y'all are on the same page
I had one years ago when I was single...debating it, I mean we have plenty of sex but I'd like to be able to pleasure myself without p0rn when I need to.
Not as good as a real vagina, but they're fun! Definitely feel awful after using them though. Women masterbating with a dildo is sensual, a man with a fleshlight less so Haha.
Imagining a model or sensual situation from your past definitely keeps your pathways somewhat attached to it's usual source of dopamine rush. Personally I think it's detrimental, because it makes you want to view the same porn again. A big part of this is to make sure we don't go back to our own ways. But if you do it just fine and it prevents you from seeking out any newer porn, then it's not damaging.
But would you say it is similar to a real vagina? I was thinking if it is really similar then it would actually make sense for guys with sexual dysfunctions to use them, obviously without porn, as this would actually help sexually rewire them nearer to real sex?
I do think your right. Because I was horny and when I was masturbating at first I was thinking about this female that I know in real life, but this wasn't turning me on that much. But then when I thought about this model I used to watch I was much more turned on.
Yea, my thoughts too. Obviously some of you guys might be single or not have regular sex, so a fleshlight is probably a better idea to help rewire, than going bk to p0rn. What so you think? Or would it just cause relapse in long run? Edit: there's also the banana peel fleshlight, cheap and cheerful, which works! Tried this a few times and it feels lush! Very similar to a vagina at times, thought it gets messy and your cock will be covered in banana juice! Maybe wear a condom haha. There's Google tutorials for it.
IMHO, masturbation after rebooting is a realistic choice for many. In my case, I have chosen not to do this because I am concerned that masturbation will rekindle my desire to watch sex workers on the screen. I think that masturbating without thinking of actual porn or porn-like scenarios is quite a challenge. I recommend a more mindful approach - mindful masturbation, if your will. That means simply masturbating and focusing on the sensations in your body rather than sexual fantasising. It makes the masturbation less artificial. Rather than trying to mimic intercourse, it is more about how you feel in your own body. It enables you to be more grounded in reality, rather than imagining you are thrusting your dick into a vagina or mouth or anus. But, I repeat that I regard this as a mistake while rebooting.
Unless your wife is already on board with your Nofap/celibacy to reboot journey, you should probably consult her.