That's an extremely good post gandalf, thanks for it! Do you have any advice for me as a 17 year old who has always been single but since i've been going on good streaks (8 days is A LOT to me but i know i can definitely do better) i'm very keen on talking to girls my age and generally starting a healthy relationship rather than one-night stands (i don't use dating sites since im not even 18...). What do you think mate?
First of all, great first step trying to get rid of your PMO addiction. 8 days is no joke, congrats on that, keep up the good work. The habit only gets worse and the consequences more severe, you are taking responsibility a full decade earlier than I am and I can't truly express in words how much I wish I would have done that and how much better the last decade of my life would have been if I had gotten my act together at 17 instead of trying now at 27. Dating, sex, general peace of mind and being more content with who I am. The university years and how much more fun and interesting they could have been. So take it from somebody who can't go back in time, keep doing what you are doing I checked out your journal, you are doing a good job logging honestly. Having said that, I won't pretend I have loads of advice to give to somebody in your situation and at your age. Because personally my dating mostly occurs via tinder and similar apps. I'm guessing you are still in school? Or are you working? I'm finding that setting goals is always a good thing, even for more everyday tasks. Otherwise it can easily happen that a month or six or twelve disappear without having actively worked towards changing something. In my case i set some goals regarding sleep, training, eating. I also indirectly set a goal to start dating which I did via tinder and similar apps/sites. It has helped me grow and has helped a lot with my PMO journey. Without focus on sleep, training and dating I wouldn't have gotten the streak I have now. You already seem to be in a better position than most, you are taking charge of a bad habit and you are looking for serious meaningful relationships. Maybe set a goal for asking a person out within a time frame (a crush or just somebody you think is a nice person). Work on your confidence and the rest will most likely come somewhat automatically. So maybe exercise, eat well, sleep plenty, if there are areas you are insecure about such as dressing right, certain skills or whatever then work on those. I feel like I'm a much more confident person now than I was 80 days ago because of my streak, because of dating, because of getting in better shape, because of doing better at my job since I sleep more etc. And once you start feeling better about yourself that generally shows and makes other people feel better about you as well. That's quite a rant, and fairly generic. Not sure if it helps at all. In short, keep killing the PMO streak and you will get there I think
Thanks for the kind words Fada1. Like I tried to make clear in my post. I was far gone. If i can make it this far, anybody can. Having said that I am humble to the fact that I'm not "done" or "cured". But it's a start. And I know now that anybody can get here if they just try to focus on getting past one day at a time and set up some helpful habits. Best of luck
Huge success on your part! You really motivated me to stay on track. I love the layout of the post, it's very neat. Totally agree with the fact that you need to take care of your entire life, not just PMO. Hope to read more of your posts in the future.
Congrats my friend!. It's so motivating to see how are you overcoming this addiction and the steps that you took to make it possible.
Thank you for sharing! The feeling before you're going to have sex while having PIED is scary as fk so i feel you! The first time i had sex with PIED i Also took a pill(tadafil which does the same as cialis\viagra) "just in case". It does help mentally and gives peace in mind just as you described. Although you might want to avoid it in the future and heal naturaly in order to avoid devoloping dependency on pills. Keep up the good work, Hope you keep updating us with your improvement
Agree, I definitely want to get to a point where I don't need the pills at all. I think I'll try without very soon and see the difference. Not a good idea to be dependent.
Thanks for sharing, keeping busy and out of the house seems like great advice but it's easier said than done. I could just hang out in the gym but there are tons of hot girls there so it's not really going to keep my mind straight or my gf happy . I'm just starting out and had a hell of a time making it to 7 days before spiralling back down. Read a lot about it, I think having the count of when you started taking it seriously might also help not absolutely ruin motivation when you lose the streak. I've been on the journey (taking it seriously) for 30 days, and I'm currently at day 1 again. Also how do you turn on the day counter?
Awesome post man.. thanks so much.. “numbed” by porn is a phrase that jumped out and also glad to see that you say you can’t ever go back.. I totally agree.. I’ve gotten to 90 and 72 days in the past and now consider myself 100% unable to mildly consume etc.. I also do small steps at a time.. aim for 5 days and mark it off.. then as I mark it off my progress builds rather than seeming like a far off target.. anyway thanks again for this post
Thanks for the reply. Indeed keeping busy and out of the house is easier said than done. But PMO is easy and quitting it is hard, especially at the beginning that's just how it is There may be hot girls at the gym, but I don't see that as a bad thing personally. I may check them out but I can control if I run to the bathroom and fap, and I'm less likely to do that than to watch porn at home so it's a win at least for me^^ I agree about the count of when you first started can be a good thing. The counter in the signature can be treacherous and demotivating in a way. If you go 7 days without PMO and then watch porn on the 8th day you have obviously still done much better than if you had watched porn all 8 days. The counter going back to 0 can make it seem like you are back to square 1 but that's only the case if you watch porn a bunch of more times. So I agree a more sophisticated way of keeping track can be good. Day counter at the top of the website it says "Home", "Froums", "Groups", "support Site", "Update Day Counter"