Before I start here a very quick back-story about me. Started PMOING aged 13 and continued on to harder and harder porn throughout my late teens and early 20s. The few times I had sex, I wasn't particularly hard, which I put down to the other guy (I'm gay). it wasn't until I couldn't even get hard over porn that I knew something was wrong. I found nofap and started the 90 day challenge. I didn't orgasm AT ALL. Day 46, I started messaging a guy online and I explained my situation. I was looking to "experiment" and see if there was any progress (if I was hard during sex). Well.....I was! I had sex with him, it was great, lovely jubley! I'm still going to finish the 90days but I'd like to know what peoples attitude are towards masturbation afterward? Do you do it? (obviously not to porn).
Maybe if you can do it without any fantasy and can finish in no longer than if you were having sex, you can do it. Once I am good, I plan to have lots of sex. I dont want masturbation ever again. After your amazing sexual experience, I'm surprised you'd even contemplate it.
I'm just being practical. I don't plan on masturbating anywhere near the amount I used to. But I know masturbation isn't the enemy, porn is.
It’s your life, bro. I just want you to have the best sex you can and the best life. You just got out of jail. I’m still there. I had sex with my girlfriend tonight and it sucked. I wish I were where you are. I see your point. If you can pop one off in ten minutes without fantasy, you’re probably not going to damage yourself. But, dude, look how easily you got the real thing. Is it unrealistic to just do that?
I know what you're saying and I'm not going to be taking my D for granted anymore. I'm just curious to know other peoples opinion on jerking after nofap.
In my opinion, it's like an alcoholic thinking they can have a drink every now and then. I 100% cured my ED years ago by abstaining, then I became complacent and binged. Now I'm back at sqaure one, don't go there.
First of all, I'm very happy for you, congrats!! You've overcome your problem. Now... I think one thing people don't consider much here is the fact that some other things will definitely affect your erection, for instance: how attracted you are to that person, how relaxed you are during sex. I see a number of people in relationships saying they can't perform with their spouses, and I wonder: is the sexual spark still there? Do they still feel physically attracted to their SO?
Agreed, luckily the guy I was with knew about my situation which helped me forget about "my D" and focus on "his D and him". If I hadn't of told him I think I may have been more nervous about it. In this case honesty is definitely the best policy!