I've been in soft mode reboot for 74 Days, haven't Masturbated or watched Porn in that time at all, only sex and handjobs from wife....other night had sex and I've had chaser effect for last few days, I saw some erotic images on Instagram and as I was on my own I had the urge and fired up a web broswer and went at it twice. I feel so ashamed now, got nothing from it...I am definitely over porn for life. I think may be I should do hard mode?
Ok. Did you follow your boundaries and your partner's boundaries right afterwards? Take the next right action. That's the first step to getting back on track.
Yes, I phoned her straight away and she was sympathetic...she's got my back of course. Total abstinence from porn of any kind, and hopefully masterbation forever. Only to have sex with my wife and to stop being a lustful 'man of the world' that the rise of internet pornography was turning me into. Also...to cure the on/off PIED I started to experience, that was in fact the only reason I started NoFap in the beggining .
Add no Psubs to the list! Instagram come up a lot as an issue. It's great you told your wife right away. May you look back at day 200 and say I only relapsed once.
Had sex last night, and twice on Friday night...hoping this isn't gonna hinder me though, maybe it'll help? A stepping stone to get through 90 days...no chaser effect so far!
I've been wondering about hard mode myself. Because even though marital sex is meant to be something beautiful and pure, our conditioning from porn can often turn it into something less so... but fulfilling your partners needs without sex is also a real concern.