I have had a developing problem more recently with sexting girls on random chat apps. Now, I am not using this as an excuse; however, I have come to realize that the usage of these apps to seek sexual stimulation has come up in proportion to my attempted abstinence from P. Before I could just hop online, PMO and be done. Now I feel like Gollum without the ring, all shriveled up looking for any little taste I can get. And now I feel even more strongly connected to the sexting than I did "regular" P because of the added connection it provides, and I really crave that. Since I'm using phone apps to do this, one solution I have is to switch to a flip phone. Otherwise, I'm at a loss as to how to resist these urges. My brain is telling me to go after P while what I really want is a relationship, and it's like I'm getting to fulfill those at the same time in a very twisted way. I really hate it.
Loved the Gollum analogy. So here’s the first thing. 1). How do you know you are talking to girls ? Have you ever been catfished? Would knowing you are talking to another guy change your feelings on sexting ? 2. What feeling starts you down this path? Try to identify it. For example desire ? Loneliness? Boredom? 3. How much time do you normally spend in texting ?
To answer your questions: 1) You're right, I can't prove I'm talking to real girls, but it's like I go into "the P trance" and don't even care at the time. 2) I think loneliness is number one what I am feeling at the time, and desire second. 3) I have stayed up through the whole night texting before. It's like a continuous search for something I know I can't actually find. But it comes in waves. I won't just do a little here and there. It's either a binge or nothing at all.
Just to let you know many guys like to seduce and chat. It’s probably majority guys like every club you go to... more guys than girls ... sausagefest
Trance is a good word. You need to jumpstart your cerebral Cortex.... How can you do that? Loneliness is an emotion being alone is a state of being. Which is your challenge ? I think you are looking for perfection...the thing you describe as in waves means you are dealing with an emotional issue. Emotions ebb and flow.
I definitely deal with loneliness regardless of the circumstances, but yes when I'm actually alone is the most difficult.
I've been there dude, many times. And when it escalated- it even turned into phone and video calls. You're looking for the same dopamine high; seeking to 'finish' what you start. Your addiction is coming out in a different form. There's a thin line between sexting and watching porn. Delete the apps, contacts or maybe get a flip phone like you said.