I mean most of you would say both but whats on your mind at most times.. 1)Is it all sexual transmutation theory and gaining control of your life OR 2) Getting solid boners to bone girls/ girlfriend/ wife Your greater PRIORITY?
I guess I'm fortunate, but getting up for my wife has never been a problem despite my years of abusing porn. For me, quitting porn is really about gaining control and stopping my downward slide.
It's #2 for me. PIED was a shocking wakeup call. Complete gut check. On the upside, I'll get a better grip on life in the process of rebooting!
Started out as 2 but as my periods of healing get longer, I've noticed I'm far more depressed/acne-filled after a relapse, so it's a nice extra incentive.
It's not the worst case of it I'd ever heard of, but discovering it at 19 and not knowing what the f*ck (are we allowed to curse here?) was going on way disturbing to say the least. Weak nerve endings, resulting in less than stelar intimacy, and if we stopped even for a few seconds my erection would fade. Even on the good days, my mind would wander and I would really be in the moment as I should, and I loved her and thought she was very attractive, but I would still be almost..... Unimpressed is the word? Looking back, I can tell I've made exponential progress, and I feel sorry to past me I ever let myself get in such a state.
Weak erections, trouble "finishing" due to not finding the real thing stimulating enough. And then the mind games! Once you experience that, it's always on your mind during sex which I'm sure doesn't help. I found myself making up excuses to not have sex as I knew I wouldn't be able to perform. And when I would, it was this looming cloud that only I could see in the room.
Definitely option #1. I used to just want to do it to get a shot with women, but I realized my life shouldn't revolve on that single aspect. There is a bit of wanting to easily communicate and have a thing with women like back then, which was 6 years ago, but I'm mostly doing NoFap for success in everyday life. I want to have a bunch of energy to get things done, be active, work 8 hour shifts without being tired, think clearly, take risks, and improve my overall self for unlimited drive.