Ive made a conscious effort to not keep electronics around when i go to bed. It make a lot of difference. Laptop or even the phone should be avoided. Restless-ness will be there cos body and brain is used to staring at some screen and then falling asleep. This journey is about re-training our minds and changing our habits. Stay strong buddy, we'll get there slowly but surely.!
Day 0 is good. cos that means you haven't given up. Doesn't matter how often you get back to day 0. but Keep pushing yourself and keep the struggle on.
Right now I feel like giving up, because I feel like I am going to be single forever! Nothing specific has happened recently to make me feel this way. Probably my brain playing tricks on me. But if I do continue to look at porn then I probably WILL be single forever! Aargh! Not breaking yet, but certainly waivering.
Abstaing from PMO would gift you the opposite of what your stating so you're right. Your mind would do anything for you to relapse. Well done on figuring that out. Now just stay strong and never let it go
Still here. Starting Day 9. Seeing your stories and reading your struggles is helpful. Remember that success isn't permanent and that failure is not fatal. Always pressing forward.
Day 12/21 completed. First time I'm close to complete this challenge. Things that helped me a lot to overcoming this: - Be a busy man: REALLY. This is A MUST. Do something with your life: Talk to your parents, knock the door of your roommate, offer him a beer and talk together, go for a mall, go to the gym, get a work... whatever the f...k you do, but not to being in your room closed, alone and with all your filters unlocked. Because of this addiction I avoided to interact with girls because I thought I looked like a weirdo. Yesterday I was in my room, and my roommate, she's so adorable, hot but more than all, lovely girl; she was washing her dishes and me in the room... I reminded this and then I went to talk to her some small talk, we laugh and she gave me her number and I felt so great. Things haven't gone so far because I only have 2 days in the house so... But the main point is that: Interact. Run away for this loneliness and this isolation. Don't make excuses about "I need my personal space" I know everybody must have their personal space, but each opportunity you have to interact with real people, approach it and do it. - Unplug: For 5-10 minutes the times you want, let your mobile phone far from you, take a book (paper book, don't trick me) and read it. Do something that helps you not use so much tech. I know, our generation is one of the most tech-depended of all, but how our parents could survive without using any social media? (don't answer me f...ng their wives, this is not an answer). Also, try to surf the internet in a open side of your house (living room, dinner room, etc.) -Remember: Each time you relapse, not only you are falling yourself, but also you're failing to that woman you desire the most, you're failing to this girl that look you so hot that she wants to f...k you but she can't because of our PMO addiction, you're failing to those people who believe you can achieve greater things of life. When you have this mindset in your life, trust me, you'll have less relapses
Day4 fellas. It’s been very helpful to see other people fighting this addiction, there is strength in numbers! Good thing, cause I’m super weak when it comes to my impulses... it’s encouraging to see people beat them.
I fell. Sorry guys. This forum is great, and I really appreciate all the support that everyone is giving each other. The smaller challenges are too short, and the longer ones a bit daunting. This one seems to be the right amount. If we make this one then I think we are well on our way. Good luck everyone. Sorry for letting the side down. Getting back on the horse right now!
I relapsed. I do not want to make excuses. Also sometimes there is no exact reason for failure. It is just part of imperfect life. I recently did not care about exercising and I think the urges becomes huge without exercise and healthy food. There were times in my life which I had a long streak but once I fell down I did not try again. This time I want to stay and start over. Day 1.