so i has i said in my other posts i have a girlfriend for some years and i really love her. and i also said that i keep fantasize about other girls. so there is one girl we used to work together and i didnt put much of attention to her but later on she got me as we talked and i realize that i have many things that i like about her but the most problem is that she has the perfect body type that i like and today i almost relapsed or had a reset i am on day 38 without p and m but shes allways in my mind
You need to stay on your reboot path and get back to the place where your mind does not wander to every girl that looks a certain way. You have to get to the point where you no longer fantasize about other girls. You should be excited by interacting with your girlfriend.
Man that's a tough one. I've never been able to completely avoid thought crime but I imagine with discipline it can be done. Props to you for not giving in to the urge though and if you love your gf then it is worth it not to!
Talk to the other girl. Dude do not feel ashamed. Maybe you will fall in love with the other girl over your current girlfriend. Maybe it is time to move on. Make a move and worst case scenario, you have a gf now to fall back on.
the thing is i really love my gf and i dont want to leave her or cheat on her just trying to understand why am i attracted to other woman when i have amazing gf why do i compare why do i feel i can love more than one woman there are two things here one is my bad habit of attracting to other woman by their looks and the other that i am attracted to them by their character. is it understandable ?
It is totally understandable. I am married and have never cheated on my wife physically. However, when I had no control over porn I would fantasize about every girl who was remotely attractive. Let your mind totally repair itself and you should start to appreciate your girl on a whole new level the way it's supposed to be.
its not just about how she looks its also about how she acts i mean i feel like i can fall for other woman while loving my own gf that the thing i dont understand about me
That is a tough one. Maybe limit your interaction with the other girl when your mind is confuse. There are so many women there and of course there are more chances you would meet more people that are your types and click with you. Just learn your priority.
Would you limit the time with someone you enjoy the company with ? In one hand I like to not limit myself to be a free spirit In the other one as you said I priorities my gf above all On my third hand if I limit my self doing stuff what will be left of me ?
Yes I would limit the time if you are going to develop feelings for her. It is ruining your relationship with ur gf. There is a reason why deep friendship is more preferable with same sex because many times feelings are developed when its 1 vs 1 with opposite sex. Not saying it is easy but without discipline you will stray. How would your gf feel if she finds out you think that way? Your definition of free spirit is where you want your gf and the perfect body girl. You have to choose one and you cannot have both.
Well she wouldn't like it I wouldn't like it if I was her. And I don't know yet what is for me a free spirit I wanted to say that its when I do not limit myself but that's not true